frustrated... - Sexual Health - General Message Board

juju316 · 04-20-2003, 02:04 AM

my guy seems to like oral better than sex, he asks me 2-3 times to give him head througout having sex. he wants it before and after sex. usually he returns the favor once and that is usually 69. and the other night after sex we were lying together and he asked me to give him head again. itold him no ive done it like 6 times that nite and he only did me once. i feel like he just wants me to please him and doesnt care if i am pleased. this mad me very upset, now i am paranoid something is wrong with me down there, he doesnt seem to want to give me oral. give advice please!

Apollo · 04-20-2003, 03:04 AM

Um, before I get into everything, what is your diet? Do you shave down there? Do you beleive your fairly Clean?

Well, from a my perspective, oral can sometimes be better than sex, but it being not mutual, isn't very fun for me. Makes me feel bad becuase it's only one way. I think in sex you do have a right to be somewhat selfish. I have had it where I'm the only one giving, and never get some back, but that's only in pretty rare cases. Um, sometimes when we would go multiple times in one "sitting" I'd ask her to help me get it up again. I don't your situation, but if you feel like your sexual relationship is uneven, you got to say something, you shouldn't be treated like this, it probably isn't to fun. Sorry if my post is a little framented, jsut throwing thoughts in.

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juju316 · 04-20-2003, 11:00 AM

my diet is pretty normal i would say, i have a good combination of meat, veggies, and fruit. i drink lots of water. I shave, and i would believe myself to be pretty clean.

Thisby · 04-20-2003, 04:15 PM

When the giving part of sex isn't even, it can really lead to negative feelings in the bedroom and it's difficult to do anything about. Either someone wants to pleasure you or not. It's really hard to make someone do something because it's "fair". My only suggestion is that next time he's asking for oral say something like "me first" with a big smile on your face so that he knows it will be happily reciprocated. I once had a bf who wouldn't do oral on me, ever, I ended up so resentful I decided to stop doing it to him (despite how much i like doing it). So guess who never got any more bjs? Anyway, he was very selfish and sometimes there's just no fixing it.

(Sorry for being so negative but I'm actually getting angry just remembering it and it was years ago! )