I feel like such a loser! - Sexual Health - General Message Board

PAISLEY · 04-24-2003, 03:00 PM

Hi.
Well. I think I have MAJOR problems. I don't know if they are psychological or what. One of my New Year's resolutions was to abstain from sex until marriage. I just really wanted to see if I could do it and I needed to do it because there is so many things out here nowadays and it's FREAKING SCARY!! When I first said I was going to do this, I had taken a look back over my sexual past and realized that I had made some very bad sexual choices and I don't want FWB (friends with benefits)anymore. I want real intimacy!!

So........I messed up

and I am freaking out!! I am so mad at myself I COULD DIE!! Am I a sex addict? Do I just not have ANY self-control. I feel horrible about breaking my oath to myself

Please...someone help me get over this or do I need to seek professional counseling.

shanshy · 04-24-2003, 03:43 PM

well i am not sure if i can help all that much. but i can see where you are coming from. but i took the same oath to but what happen to me was i met this guy and we fell for eachother and i broke my oath. i am only 20 and i feel like i need it everyday but i know that i have to be patient becuase to much i am sure can hurt you in a long run. you can be strong. i hated my self for not waiting to i am married but what was i supposed to do i could not help myself. now i have a new oath and i said that i would have no children until i am married. and knock on wood i am not pg yet.. it is your choice it is your body and mind do what you need to do.

german30 · 04-24-2003, 05:26 PM

When you say abstain from sex, do you also mean you will not masturbate, that could give you an outlet for your frustration with yourself

ButtMunch · 04-24-2003, 06:37 PM

To me it just seems silly you would get so mad over something you had the power to say no to, but chose not to.
If you wanted sex or that feeling so bad you could have masturbated or done many of other things to take your mind off it.
I don't think you need professional help it was your choice not to have sexual relations, you didn't have the will power, now you know, why don't you pick something for New Years that isn't out of your league. I don't think your addicted to sex, i think once you have sex and you enjoy it it's hard to give up just like someone wanting to diet and they love junk food...you get my point.

I can see you would be mad at yourself but don't go sweating bullets over it, life goes on.

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