PLEASE READ - Extreme lustful feelings all of the time!!
I am 33 y/o and male. I am in a relationship (going on two years now). Up until 3-4 months ago, I was planning on asking her to marry me. Now, I am not even close. First of all, she has gained some weight (30lbs. or so). I have lost most of my attraction towards her. I hate it!! I love her, but she is so unhealthy - never exercising and will not eat right. I want to marry her and accept her, but can't. That's not even the reason for this post. I lust for women ALL THE TIME!! I look at any decent looking girl from the age of 15 - 40 and I want them. Summer time is the worst for me (clothing seems to be lacking then). I don't know how to look at a woman's cleavage, legs, face, ect. and not feel extreme lust?? This isn't normal!! I've been this way since my early 20's. I am not a sex addict. I either make love or masterbate 3 times a week or so. My gf has a very low libido, which also makes this frustrating (I think she would be fine with once/month). I started taking Aderall for my ADD a few months ago, which definitely makes this worse (I was on Provigil for years, but didn't help much). Anyway, you could tell me to grow up and get over it, but I seriously cannot help it. I do not like these lustful feelings. My questions to all of you: Have you heard of this extreme lustfulness, without being a sex addict? Short of going to therapy, what can I do? I want to marry her - she makes me happy - but can't as long as this is getting in the way.
Re: PLEASE READ - Extreme lustful feelings all of the time!!
You know, at the end of the day, it's one thing to think about things and another to act on them. Although your mind is going haywire, you clearly know what's OK and what's not. I'm in my 50's and work in an area with lots up dressed up pretty women everywhere! I can get like you a bit, maybe not the extreme you describe but... Have you every had your testosterone checked? Maybe it's going crazy on you.
My feelings are, as long as you only look but don't touch, you're probably like a huge percentage of guys in your age range. I mean, who doesn't look at a hot woman and think things that shouldn't be mentioned here. I mean, really!
Hang in there guy!