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I hope I'm not sounding too frank but this is just my opinion. Hopefully some others will sound off with theirs so you can try to look at this from different views. First off, if he did mention something to another friend about what you two did intimately and it wasn't very nice I have to wonder how good a friend he really is. Also, if he was a nice guy and a good friend you would think that he would be understanding that it was your first time and that with help and experience things would get better. I know I don't know your situation very well but from what you've said he sounds like a jerk to me. I read from your other post that you were also worried about men being tired of women after sex. Every person is different. Some men are just in it for the sex (as some women are) and maybe that is all they want. But some men do actually want a relationship and will not tire of you after sex. Be careful of what qualities you are looking for in a guy and just b/c you come across some guys like that definitely not all of them are. I've met some real players but I've also met just as many guys who are looking for a meaningful relationship. You should talk to him about your relationship and see what he feels and where you two want things to go. And as to why he didn't have an orgasm, yes alcohol can affect that. I know your first time can be a very uneasy time, don't beat yourself up over it.