first sexual experience part 2 - Sexual Health - General Message Board

howdymiles · 08-20-2003, 04:17 PM

updating my situation, i had my first sexual experience (first worrying about the fact that he didnt come, but knowing now it was probably the alcohol) and he said something that is offensive and im not sure how to deal with it..he said to his friends that there was no way i was a virgin because it was too easy to go in...???! now the 2 other girls that he has been with were very very small girls, very skinny, im not fat by any means but im not small either, and i actually heard that this may have something to do with it, that naturally i was larger. and to be honest it didnt seem to go so smoothy as he said so now im regretting my first time with a person that would actually say something like that...bacically calling me loose..and i know for guys this is a bad thing should i be embarassed or just think that this guy is a complete jerk?

liljo · 08-20-2003, 04:31 PM

that guy is a jerk, no guy shud eva put u down,
as a human being u hav the rite to be how u are,

guys r like roses watch out 4 the pricks,

lvz lil jo xxxx

Thisby · 08-20-2003, 05:20 PM

I think it's a shame that you let him be your first sexual partner. Can I suggest that for your next partner, you find someone who actually cares? Because if you do, he's not going to be such a pig about it, and you will probably enjoy it a lot more, as will he.

Having sex isn't like letting someone borrow your car, and afterwards they can go "that was a pretty lousy ride, blah blah blah". Sex is very intimate, personal, and private. He's a jerk for telling his friends anything other than how wonderful you were.

As for you being 'loose', women come in all different sizes, and it's not like it's something we can measure. We just have to take their word for it. So maybe his penis is small. Again, a real boyfriend wouldn't let something like that matter. Forget this jerk.

Magnetic · 08-20-2003, 06:17 PM

You may be naturally larger and if you are a little loose, this could help explain his difficulty.

However, he might be trying to explain away his own inability to climax by lying to others - telling them you were too loose for him to feel much.

So, yeah, he is a supreme jerk. I hope had you not been drinking you would not have choosen this loser as your first. Next time please be more selective and make sure he is a decent guy before you drink and have sex.

ladybug _crazy · 08-20-2003, 06:20 PM

i'm so sorry your first experience was like that. i just wanted to let you know that just because it was easy for him to go in is probably because you were ready for it and well lubed up!!!

my first time didn't hurt and it was quite easy due to lots of foreplay. every woman is different.

it doesn't sound like this guy respects you very much...if he had a concern he could have at least be decent enough to approach you directly with it.

i hope everything works out for you