Need some questions answered - Sexual Health - General Message Board

scorpionx · 08-16-2003, 07:42 PM

Hi guys, I am 20 and I am a virgin, was thinking about finding me a mate in the future, I am hesitant now due to things I have heard from other people. They say once you have sex with a woman, men cannot bear without the vagina, and in turn the women runs you, and owns you, and practically treats you like as if she was your mom, now I am SERIOUSLLY considering not ever having sex AT ALL...
I mean I want to be my own man, and make decisions that will make me happy, not let someone else take my life into their own hands..... not being Gender racist or anything, just frustrating though!!!!!!!!!!

TomsWife · 08-16-2003, 08:17 PM

Yikes !!

strand3d · 08-16-2003, 08:21 PM

You shouldn't listen to the rumors you hear from other people. Every relationship is different. Sex is a wonderful important aspect to a relationship and you shouldn't avoid it simply because you're afraid of what it might do. You can still be your own man, and have a wonderful girlfriend/wife. You can always have your cake and eat it too

tpopescu · 08-16-2003, 10:33 PM

Some women can be controlling just like some men can be controlling. Every person is different; just try to find someone compatable for you. And if things don't work out, there will be other relationships or you can masterbate. Good luck.

bigjimsladeofnebraska · 08-21-2003, 11:35 PM

my friend, you are obsessing needlessly. well, pretty needlessly. yes, there are controlling women out there who will exploit any opportunity to dictate the way a relationship runs. but i know plenty of friends who are no longer virgins, get on fine in their relationships without being "whipped," or once outside the relationship certainly survive with masturbation.
as i understand it (my relationship is right on the brink myself, but haven't gone through with it yet), no it isn't really ever the same masturbating as actually having sex, but you deal with what you get.
if you think you're ready for sex, go ahead. and don't worry about some woman controlling you, you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
relax, man.