Oral. No thanks! - Sexual Health - General Message Board

portofino · 08-28-2003, 08:03 AM

My g/f really does not enjoy me giving her oral. She gives me oral regularly and enjoys it. Hence, I would like to return the favour as well. However, she said that she probably won't be able to orgasm, doesn't like it, it bothers her etc. How can this be, surely it must be a pleasurable experience for women? Perhaps I'm "doing it" wrong? Can anyone give advice on this and how I can encourage my g/f to allow me to perform oral sex on her. I really enjoy giving oral.

dsheldon3 · 08-28-2003, 09:42 AM

I have always been the same way, mostly because no man has ever done it the way I like it nor ever bothered to ask how I like it done.It takes time.It took a long time before I even let a guy go down there.Try moving very slowly.Work up to it.Like maybe a few kisses or licks near the area, every now and then.And then maybe one day a few kisses on the actual area down there and just repeat that every now and then and then maybe work up a just a few licks or something every now and then.I don't know what other girl like,lol but for me less is best.Gentle touches down there with just a little teasing might work.Also there are some girls that do not need oral at all.For me for example

, I can have 100 orgasms just being with a guy or holding his hand than I can having actual intercoarse.She might be the same way.

Dakota · 08-28-2003, 05:18 PM

it's possible she may be someone with a super sensitive clitoris and direct contact is uncomfortable...

justanotherdude · 09-01-2003, 05:41 PM

Well, my girlfriend told me that she had never had an orgasm from oral sex before. She just didn't like it.

I convinced her to let me try, and I asked her advice. It didn't take me long to figure out what she likes, when her legs press against your ears and she's screaming.. keep doing what you're doing.

Suffice to say, she told me she hadn't experienced an orgasm in her life before I gave her oral sex and after she came I could feel her spasms for 30 minutes. She was blind for that time too

So in conclusion my advice; a woman knows her body best, ask her for advice. It's tough I know, but she will thank you afterwards!

topspin · 09-02-2003, 10:58 AM

Eh?

Your g/f had an orgasm and she twitched for 30 minutes and in that time she was blind?!

Well, my friend.. that's quite a claim!

heehee

Topspin