Addiccted to handjobs... - Sexual Health - General Message Board

Mortyr · 09-10-2003, 08:39 PM

Ok im a bit afraid of the replies im gonna get but here goes cause im really messed up about this.
Im addicted to masturbation, and im sick of everyone telling me that it is healthy, because i dont care if it is, i just want to stop it, and its really hard.
And the reason why i wanna stop this is because the feeling i get after it, i feel so guilty and dirty and i ABSOLUTLEY HATE MYSELF at these moments, sometimes even to a suicidal degree.
I just hope there are people out there who can take my problem seriously, because i cant tell anyone about this problem because im so ashamed of it, expect online. Can anyone help?

Karla · 09-10-2003, 09:00 PM

see my response in the addictions board.

Thisby · 09-10-2003, 11:04 PM

I don't know if this is the kind of reply you are afraid of getting but here goes:

I think you should be more concerned about overcoming your guilt about masturbating instead of your inability to stop masturbating.

It is the guilt that is wrong, not the masturbating. You're focusing your energy on the wrong problem. Unless you are masturbating to the point where you are hurting yourself, it's so often it's interfering with your day-to-day life, or you have particularly disturbing fantasies while masturbating, there is nothing wrong with it and you aren't likely going to get much advice here on how to stop. I'd expect more advice on how to accept that masturbation is a normal and healthy practice.

If you are seriously feeling suicidal about it, you should get councelling right away. It will also help you put this in perspective.

subgirl · 09-11-2003, 03:01 AM

Hi hope you don't mind a female response here..

If you are young, 20 ish, then men of that age, especially if not in a relationship, will masurbate sometimes few times a day-this is normal.

If you are in a relationship and this is affecting it, then you are right to be worried, but if you are single, dont worry.

Does it affect your life, do you stay home so you can do this,or do you just do it when you are alone and get the urge?

As for the guilt, do you feel guilty masturbating at all, or just cos of the amount of times you do it?maybe you were brought up with bad feeling about this, but there is nothing un natural about pleasuring yourself.

Lastly, when really turned on, i think a lot of people think things that they wouldn't do normally, and the anti-climax that happens after orgasm often brings the low after the high,i would say this is normal too...in other words you might feel that something that was turning you on when you were masturbating,does nothing for you once you are finished...don't worry, its all fantasy and does no harm.My advice is as long as this doesn't interfere with your life...carry on and enjoy!