Girlfreind has very low sex drive - Sexual Health - General Message Board

Zeddy · 09-10-2003, 04:12 PM

Hello,

I'm hoping someone can give me some advice, as this is really stressing me out!!

I'm a 23 year old male, I've been with my girlfreind for about two and a half years, we use to have a good sex life, but I would still be initiating it most of the time, and got rejected every now and then. During the past year her drive has gone even lower, if I dont mention it or instigate it she will come on to me once maybe twice a week! When i do instigate it she gets upset and rejects me. This makes me feel really hurt and rejected, we argue about it alot but she never wants to here how I feel and turns it around as if I'm being selfish!

We have a great life together, dinners, movies, bars, clubs and all!! What does this mean, is it a phase? Am I being selfish? If it were up to me I would make love once or more a day with her. This is tearing us apart, and she has no idea how I really feel about it, like I said when I try to let her know how I feel she doesnt want to talk about the subject!

Willzviewz · 09-10-2003, 07:51 PM

The late Ann Landers would suggest that you go to a therapist together and if she won't go with you, then go yourself. Perhaps a physical for each of you is in order.

Magnetic · 09-10-2003, 08:32 PM

Her coming on to you once or twice a week is not all that abnormal. She may simply feel that twice-weekly sex is sufficient. If you have been pressuring her to have more sex, she may have become resentful and, thus, is rejecting you for that reason. Maybe if you back down a bit... It might also help to be positive - don't be upset if she is not in the mood, but remain cheerful and try to show her that you still want to be with her. In other words, don't let her feel that if she won't have sex you don't want to be around her. It sounds like you two otherwise have a great relationship. Ease up with her, and whenever you do have sex, make sure she is well taken care of, if you know what I mean. If she doesn't enjoy it, she will be desireous of you.

Zeddy · 09-10-2003, 10:25 PM

Hello,
Thx for the advice, the problem is when I'm rejected by her to make love, and ask if she would like to take care of me hand job or whatever, then also get rejected once again then I get extremly frustrated!

any sugetions??