Hello folks,
I have just popped across from the bipolar boards because our discussion is getting a bit too hot for that board.
we were discussing the fact that many bp's have overwhelming sexual desires.
I am curious to know just how strong "normal" people's desires are. And whether you find sex as immensely satisfying as we do. Do you have lightening bolts of sexual energy when you see someone with the right "chemistry". Do you go crazy over someone's scent ?
and can you disconnect love and sex completely like I can? For me satisfying sex in a steady relationship it pretty much impossible. Sex has to be bad to be good. It's the chase, the illicit nature (danger even) which makes it exciting. Personally I find sex which is morally okay is never much fun.
This might sound silly, but I'm a bit nervous about posting on an unfamiliar board.
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you describe me to a T..........the scent, the allure, the catch
the moral issue, the disconnecting love and sex issue, i mean is there really such thing, and how do you decipher, is ones thoughts on love those of anothers on sex?
I wont dig deep, just wanted you to know it all rings familiar bells here
My fiance was diagnosed 2 years ago and he has NO sex drive/desire what-so-ever! Before he was diagnosed and put on meds, his drive/desire was out of this world!!! Ever since he's been on meds, it's totally non-existant !
hey I am BP and I must say I do know what you mean. I dont know if it is about sex so much for me... but the chase, the NEED to be sought out and to seek out... the scent... i know exaclty what you mean... but then when I think about it logically I'm like.. wait... a second... but i DONT Want to have sex Im in a long term commited relationship... which might I add is great BUT there is ALWAYS that lingering when I see someone... and I go very weird and I DO love the chase and the lure... BUT i CAN refrain, and I do for respect for my boyfriend... but it crosses my mind a lot, i just never ACT on it!!!
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treehugger, how long have you been with your boyfriend. going with someone else didn't cross my mind for the first 7 years . lack of excitement in the bedroom combined with hypomania is pretty hard for me to deal with. Haven't strayed yet though.
I did have a huge crush on jim carrey, now I have a huge crush on a guy called Ben. (I think that's his name). Trouble is I love my husband very much, I just want to have sex with someone else every now and again. i don't want another husband. no solution to this one is there?
more lithium I guess.
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I'm Bipolar and in a pretty long-term, committed relationship. I (and my b/f) find my sex drive fairly normal, but other people seem to think it's a little high. I'd say at least 1-3 times a day. Everyone tells me thats above average, so I suppose it is. lol
I can relate with the whole immensly satisfying, lightening bolt thing. If I'm having a bad day or whatever, sex literally fixes everything. I can't seem to disconnect it from love, though. I'm not sure if that will make sense to anyone. If I weren't in a serious relationship, I'd probably suffer years before having sex. lol
I've (in several years) never once wanted to cheat. I sometimes have thoughts about a few people, but I'd never do it, nor do I actually REALLY want to.
lol... I was afraid to reply on the Bipolar board. So, yea, thats my opinion.
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I'm not bipolar but I DO understand where you're coming from --- sounds very similar to me. Since I'm not bipolar but am similar to the way you've described yourself, I would have to conclude that it is not a quality unique to bipolar individuals. I wonder if it's not the bipolar-ness that's causing your sexual desires, but maybe being bipolar allows you to tune in a bit more to what might already be there? Most people are pretty out of touch with their sexuality. Maybe being bipolar is a gift that way, for you, allowing you to get in touch?
i dont think i'm bi-polar, but hey i could be (my sister is) and i'm a nympho. i love sex. everything about it. scents on guys usually send me through the roof. the stronger the better. sex is great i cant get enough of it.
and there's a guy i'm "seeing" i guess that totally blows me away. he has everything that turns me on. he has a girlfriend (that he wants to break up with but he's whipped and is having a hard time breaking it off)
but he and i have a sexual relationship. it's awesome. i just have to see him to get turned on. when we're working it's especially a turn on b/c i see him get all hot and sweaty.
i didnt know bi-polars were so sex crazed. could i be bi-polar?
[This message has been edited by Oblio (edited 10-27-2003).]
thoyts,
I’m not bipolar but I have a cousin who is, so I’ve read quite a bit about it. There’s a word for the feelings you’ve described. It’s called hypersexuality. It’s not unique to bipolar disorder, but it may be more common with people who are bipolar. A person who’s bipolar would notice it mostly during the up or manic periods, and it will probably subside during the down periods.
Hypersexuality, whether the person is bipolar or not, involves obsessing too much about sex, wanting to have it all the time, or having it anytime, anyplace, with whomever, and not thinking about the consequences involved. Porn and prostitutes may be part of it. It’s destructive both mentally and physically, since you can put yourself in unsafe sexual situations, damage relationships, cause career problems, and then there’s the guilt and depression. After you do something you shouldn’t have done you think: “What did I just do and why did I do it?” Sometimes it’s sexual addiction or can lead to it.
When depressed, most people aren’t interested in sex, but if they do have sex they get the instant gratification from it, but then feel depressed after, so then they go have sex again, and get depressed again. It’s a vicious cycle. It’s like a person on drugs and feeling good from the high, then the drug wears off, the lousy feeling comes back, so you take the drug again.
If you’re feeling like that all the time you probably should speak to your doctor about your lithium dosage. There’s a time and place for everything, including sex, and it is normal to think about it and have it, but it shouldn’t be this overwhelming, all consuming thing.
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I am bipolar, but am only like that while manic. While depressed, I have NO SEX DRIVE AT ALL. Its probably been about 3 weeks...I just dont...want it. I dont know what to do, I feel awful for my fiance.
Bipolar disorder and sexual urges. 
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