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Old 12-30-2011, 03:06 PM   #1
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What is going on here??

okay so heres something i have been twisting my brain around and trying to figure out. maybe some outside input will help me out. but heres whats going on and a bit of history:
when my bf and i first got together we had a long distance kind of relationship. so we constantly had vid sex. im talking on a nightly basis. wich didnt bug me im a very sexual person and loved it. he told me about how he loved sex and what not. i wont lie i was pretty happy i could never find a man with a high enough sex drive to keep up.. so lets fast forward a bit. after all the video sex and what not he was finally going to be coming home meaning yippy for me real sex finally! it was amazing! im talking all the kissing for play and what not and he actually lasted long enough for multiple O's. he stayed in town for a bout a week and the sex was amazing. he then had to go back out on work.
he was gone for about three weeks before quiting his job and moving premanantly home...i was soo happy. specially due to the fact that i was pregnant. so everythinng was heightened...
the first week was amazing! and then it all suddenly changed! like dramaticly he started staying out drinking and seemingly not making it home. i knnow sounds like cheating right. well i did find numerous numbers of different girls in his phone most of which were out of state so i brushed it off. then i came across one were i was refered to as the prego roomie....i comfronted him and we worked things out. i still secretly check things and he seems like hes been good...
although the sex hasnt gotten any better. he watches porn regularly saying it entertains him. but it seems hed rather do that over have sex with me!
he loves anal in fact he seems to prefer that to any other form. forplay kissing is all non existent. no matter the form the sex now lasts long enough for him to pump a few times get himself off and go to sleep. we will go three weeks without sex. when we do its like that and only because i mention how bothered i am by it...
this morning i woke up to him joking about how he was gonna masturbate wiht me lying right there. i got on top and wanted to have sex but he pushed me away and said he didnt feel like having sex it would take to long! so with hurt feelings i rolled over to go back to sleep and then he actually masturbated with me lying in bed right next to him!
whats going on here! is my drive to high! is it normal for the sex to fizzle out this much?!

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Old 12-31-2011, 05:40 PM   #2
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Re: What is going on here??

Sorry that you are have to be going through such a hard time with a relationship that started off so good. Something is wrong either he is cheating on you or sorry but no longer interested in you but you are pregnant so he feels obligated to stay with you. You don't deserve to be treated like this you have sexual needs. You need to have a serious talk with him and tell him if things don't change you are going to leave because you deserve better. Why would he jerk off in bed beside you? why would he depend on porn when he has you? You need to tell him exactly how you feel don't hold nothing back. If he don't shape up DTMFA. Keep a smile on your face.

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Old 01-03-2012, 09:41 AM   #3
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Re: What is going on here??

I will try and answer this as good as possible hopefully not upsetting you.

"when my bf and i first got together we had a long distance kind of relationship. so we constantly had vid sex."

How soon did this start? Some men might lose respect for you if you do these kind of things early on.

"after all the video sex and what not he was finally going to be coming home meaning yippy for me real sex finally! it was amazing!"

Did you ever discuss feelings? Was there love involved at this point?

"i came across one were i was refered to as the prego roomie"

That's just disrespectful, that would bother me personally

"although the sex hasnt gotten any better. he watches porn regularly saying it entertains him. but it seems hed rather do that over have sex with me!"

Some guys like it because it's less physical exercise for them. Have you discussed the porn and why is he picking it over you?

"he loves anal in fact he seems to prefer that to any other form."

Seems to be like he can only get off on the worst stuff now, because normal stuff is not deivant enough for him.

"forplay kissing is all non existent."

Some people would say that is the best part! If you love someone you just want to kiss and hold them.

"this morning i woke up to him joking about how he was gonna masturbate wiht me lying right there. i got on top and wanted to have sex but he pushed me away and said he didnt feel like having sex it would take to long! so with hurt feelings i rolled over to go back to sleep and then he actually masturbated with me lying in bed right next to him!"

Did he use porn infront of you? If he masturbated whilst looking at you perhaps he was just too lazy for sex. How old are you and him if you don't mind me asking?

"whats going on here! is my drive to high! is it normal for the sex to fizzle out this much?!"

I will say what I know about men, if he hasn't got any respect or love for you, he will get bored, I'm sorry to say it. What are you looking for do you want sex and love? It sounds to me like it is just sex. Did you do other couple stuff?

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Old 01-03-2012, 04:52 PM   #4
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Re: What is going on here??

WOW~! When I read your post I couldn't believe what I was reading. I mean it's one thing to want to masturbate if you're alone or your partner is tired etc. but to have your mate right next to you in bed... WOW, is all I can say. What man in their right mind wouldn't prefer a soft warm inviting vj for their member as opposed to their cold right hand? That just does not compute to me! Like a square peg in a round hole. It just can't be true.

Honestly, I have no idea what's going through his mind. I have to believe that if you jumped on top of him, he's erect and could just slip in there to please the both of you at the same time, why wouldn't he? Sorry, but you have a real problem on your hands! I do wish you the best of luck~!

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Old 01-04-2012, 08:03 AM   #5
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Re: What is going on here??

Ok, couple of things here. Ditch this guy, he is a looser. Good sex does not always make for a great relationship. The lack of foreplay to me indicates an overall lack of caring for you. The phone numbers, the disparaging "prego ROOMATE" remark all indicate he doesn't really care about you. Its not going to get better either. These types of guys are not committment types.

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Old 01-06-2012, 12:16 PM   #6
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Re: What is going on here??

Wow, just wow. You need to leave this guy, he doesn't give 2 cents about you. I'm so sorry.

 
Old 01-23-2012, 09:05 AM   #7
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Re: What is going on here??

This guy sounds like a real jerk.

 
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