Re: Married for 2 1/2 years.. need advice
She very well may be to tired. Working, taking care of a home, and social interactions are draining. the weekends may be the only time she feels she has the time or energy. Perhaps she should try yoga, martial arts, or meditation in order to help her shed work each day. Maybe she needs a weekly date with her girlfriends to vent as a way to de-stress. I know it sounds crazy to send a tired person to a gym or to get active in a sport but studies show that it often gets the juices flowing. Expect that any change will have an adjustment time. It's even better if you offer to do any of these activities with her, however respect her choice to do them solo.
I know you said you two are deeply bonded and I'm sure you are, but make sure she knows she can open up to you. Perhaps there is a want or a need that isn't being met. She may not want to hurt your feelings or may be scared of being judged. If she does open up about something, you do not get to respond negatively if you want to maintain her trust. Nothing is a mood killer like stress and pressure is. Don't make her feel guilty or uncomfortable unless you want to ruin your sex life.
Lastly, keep in mind, hormone and energy levels change as we age. Sure she is only 26 but she is still chemically different than she was at 19, 21, or even 25. All relationships have their highs and lows. Continue to be loving, fun, romantic, and supportive. Be patient, and try not to take it too personally. You will both continue to change. So tonight, give her a full body rub down with no expectations. This week buy her flowers just because you appreciate her. And take the pressure away from both of you. The reason for her lack of desire may have little to nothing to do with you, but you sure can hurt or help your cause.
Best wishes to both of you.