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Old 06-29-2012, 12:14 PM   #1
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husband no longer seems interested in sex :(

I'm new to this site (by accident) and I'm hoping I can get some information from someone who has had a similar situation. I would also really love a guys perspective. But please be gentle with honesty...I'm fragile

Sorry for the lengthy explination!!

I have been with my husband for 10 years and am still completely head over heels in love with him. I still get butterfly's when I see its him calling or texting me, and even his scent makes me heady. He is the sexiest man alive, and i feel very lucky to have found him. He has 3 kids from a previous relationship and I have 1 from a previous relationship. We do our best, but our life can get pretty hectic.

In the beginning all we did was have sex. We would have sex all day for hours, and whenever we didn't have our children. It was exciting and unbelievably fun. I was never interested in sex before I met him. Sometimes I joke that he created a monster because he basically introduced me to desires I never knew I had. This sex life continued for a while until we both slowed down gradually and mutually.

I was put on medication a few years ago and I suddenly didn't want sex....EVER. unfortunately I declined his advances frequently. He was always grabbing me and complimenting me, and although I didn't want sex I loved the attention.

All of the sudden last year he stopped complimenting me and never wanted sex. I was okay with this at first. When we did have sex he only lasted 30 seconds, and for obvious reasons it upset him. Everytime we had sex he would try suggestions for making him last longer, but nothing worked. He went to the doctor and I think he was prescribed something, but it failed to work also. He is now on antidepressants and has to take morphine occasionally for a past injury.

Currently we don't have a healthy sex life. He says its because hes disgusted with himself and his inability to perform. Most the time he sleeps on the couch because he has difficulties sleeping and will watch Tv. I know for a fact hes not cheating or watching porn. The thing is I just want his attention. I want to be asked to watch a movie with him or get hugged once in a while. When I initiate sex he says hes tired or just lays there ignoring me. Ill rub his back or head and try to cuddle but its like I'm annoying to him. I cant help but take it personally because I'm getting older (im 29) and i have gained a little weight over the years. He says it has nothing to do with me. Ive told him Im sad and feel ignored and he'll make small gestures but will eventually go back to normal. I cry a lot because I hate to think that it only gets worse from here. I want my old best friend back, but don't know how to get him.

Maybe he doesn't love me as much as I love him? Maybe he doesn't find me attractive anymore? How can he change his premature ejaculation problem? Is it normal to go through phases? Does the drive for sex ever come back or just get worse?

 
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Re: husband no longer seems interested in sex :(

Has he had his testerone checked???

That absolutely could be the culprit.
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Re: husband no longer seems interested in sex :(

You said you've been together 10 years and you are 29, right? He has 3 kids from previous relationship(s), so presumably he is significantly older. How much older?
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