My girlfriend caught me masturbating last night. Instead of getting involved or anything she waited for me to finish then laughed at me and called me disgusting. Later she told me it was perfectly natural, I know it is.
We never have had an active intimate life together and I can count the number of times we've had sex on one hand in the nearly two years we've been together.
Still, Now I feel really awkward and ashamed when I'm around her.
If she knows it's natural, why should you feel embarrassed and disgusted? Next time you want to play with it tell her your intentions. Then ask if she wants to watch you, join you, ignore you or help you? Any way she chooses you have no reason to be uncomfortable.
She doesn't want to join me or do anything besides be disgusted. She basically said that she is uncomfortable with intimacy, however that doesn't stop her from telling stories about things she has done with her ex's
Cody, you need to ask yourself some serious questions: l. Do you espect this relationship to last? 2. Are you prepared to live with this siutation indefinitely?
3. Isn't there something within you that wants to have someone love you as much as you love them? If she has such distain for your sexual equipment, I suspect she may not be hetrosexual.
The one thing that stands out to me is the fact you can count on one hand all the times you guys had sex in nearly two years. But like you said, she can talk about all the things she's done with her ex bf's. Here's the thing with me..I don't like masturbation and I don't like porn but you should NOT let her make you feel disgusted and ashamed. I can't say whether it's natural or not only because I don't care for things like that but what I can say is if you can't be yourself and do something that makes you happy then you shouldn't waste your time with someone like that. I know you probably love her and she's probably great in other ways but something is definitely lacking in your relationship and I think you're very much aware of that.
Sounds like you might need to find another girlfriend.
A relationship without a healthy sex life is just a friendship - and it doesn't sound like she's a very good friend.
You're correct, masturbation is completely normal. Porn is also normal. It's a multi billion dollar industry in the USA alone. You're not alone.
Why are you two together anyway? Are you providing for her?
Evaluate thoroughly why you put up with her behavior.
It's much preferable being single and free to go and do whatever you like, than being with someone else out of codependency.
Don't be embarrassed! It is natural, especially if you don't have an active sex life. I would not be surprised if she masterbates herself when you are not around and she should be thankful you are not going else wheres to get some. Next time when you feel the need to masterbate show gesters to her like touch her vagina and masterbating her when you masterbate, if it were me it would turn me on and would join in. When my husband strokes himself it turns me on, if fasct we watch each other. Ask her what she wants from you love making and if she has no respect or laughs at you then you are going to have to make a decision if you want to continue being marriage and sexless or divorced! Sex is a huge part of marriage...intimate connection. Good luck!
i have been caught by wife. A little akward yes. I tell her im looking for a cheap thrill. She did not try to shame me though.She admittingly masturbates as well. Your lack of regular sex is alarming though. Are you both strumming your lives away? Its easy to get caught up in.Try to closer to her.I have ben caught a few times by the way and never once did i expect her to join me. once i take matters into my own hands its all on me! get closer to her women are complicated, im still working on it . if you do find the answers they will change the quuestions
