It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....



Sexual Health - General Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 08-19-2012, 07:22 PM   #1
Senior Member
(male)
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Posts: 110
FranktheTank HB User
Oral Sex Question

Do I have a right to be a little bothered that I never have gotten a blowjob from my girlfriend? Ok, she has done it while we are having sex, but never without it...like when she is on her period. I'm not a jerk and don't ask for it, but it just hurts feeling like it never crosses her mind to even offer it to me, especially when I'm so good to her and do so many things for her. We were just on a romantic get away that cost me a lot of money and planning and she was on her period and just went to sleep on me both nights. It's a little depressing. We don't have sex as often as we should since we've only been together 4 months which is when everything should be hot and heavy, so that bothers me enough to begin with and the whole idea of "If I'm not getting any you're not getting any" seems kind of selfish to me. Is there a right way to say something without seeming selfish? Do I even have a right to say something?

 
Old 08-19-2012, 08:07 PM   #2
Senior Member
(female)
 
Ilovedollhouses's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Happiness U.S.A.
Posts: 135
Ilovedollhouses HB UserIlovedollhouses HB UserIlovedollhouses HB UserIlovedollhouses HB User
Re: Oral Sex Question

First, I was never aware of the fact that sex is only supposed to be hot and heavy in the early stages of a relationship...I have always thought it improves with age...As for the Oral Sex being performed on you my answer would be NO....She does not have a duty to do this and it must be of her desire only....IMO, sex is not done on a "payback" schedule...It is done with the lust of two people in mind...When she does this during sexual mating she is doing it because she feels aroused enough to do it...For this alone you should be thankful...You see many women refuse to do this act so I would consider yourself pretty well loved....

As for the romantic get away that cost you money, I thought this was done out of love and not to satisfy your need....

Being a woman I doubt that any woman thinks in terms of I'm not getting any, so your not getting any....It's the woman's arousal that sets the tone to her actions...Demand sex is not one of them...Hope this helps more than confuses you...Take care...ILD....

 
Sponsors Lightbulb
   
Old 08-19-2012, 08:37 PM   #3
Senior Member
(male)
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Posts: 110
FranktheTank HB User
Re: Oral Sex Question

Thanks and it really does..I do respect everything you said, but since you put it that way, I feel kind of bad that she doesn't seem too aroused around me then or in the mood around me too much, would it be wrong to bring up something about that?

 
Old 08-19-2012, 09:11 PM   #4
Senior Member
(female)
 
Ilovedollhouses's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: Happiness U.S.A.
Posts: 135
Ilovedollhouses HB UserIlovedollhouses HB UserIlovedollhouses HB UserIlovedollhouses HB User
Re: Oral Sex Question

Hi again: Do it gently...This can be a very both embarrassing and delicate act for a woman to do...This is why when she is aroused that she is more likely to forget her modesty and "let it all hang out"...She could have been embarrassed when you were out and had her period and felt that this is the way that it had to be...It should not be a forced issue....A man's arousal and a woman's are as different as night and day....Oh, we can be ready with the engine running, but more often slow starters and work up to full steam ahead....

FYI, it took my husband about five years for me to really accept this part of life...I was blessed...He was and is the neatest man in the world....But, I can tell you that he has reaped the benefits for his patience....Life is good...Take care...ILD.....

 
Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
Oral sex and mouth infections Dazed667 Sexual Health - General 5 10-30-2009 11:48 PM
Traditional, Anal and Oral? Questions angel_light Sexual Health - General 3 05-26-2009 03:51 PM
Question about oral sex sp8erman Sexual Health - General 10 01-27-2006 11:27 AM
risks w/ oral sex moz Sexual Health - General 4 05-11-2005 07:45 PM
no oral ?? ryan12 Sexual Health - General 10 11-24-2004 03:23 PM




Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




Join Our Newsletter

Stay healthy through tips curated by our health experts.

Whoops,

There was a problem adding your email Try again

Thank You

Your email has been added








TOP THANKED CONTRIBUTORS



lenvegas (12), rosequartz (8), writeleft (6), Kszan (5), solofelix (5), Titchou (4), Kali333 (4), captjane (4), Tivo123 (4), ladybud (4)

Site Wide Totals

teteri66 (1166), MSJayhawk (1000), Apollo123 (899), Titchou (835), janewhite1 (823), Gabriel (758), ladybud (747), sammy64 (668), midwest1 (665), BlueSkies14 (610)



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 09:17 AM.



Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
Terms of Use © 1998-2014 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!