My husband and I have been together for years and this has been an issue since before we got married. I don't know who to talk to about this so I am going to ask here...
If my husband doesn't shower after we have sex, then his man parts get flaky, sometimes red and the worst case his skin goes black wherever my inside girl parts touched him. I don't know if he is allergic to me (he refuses to see a doctor since he's embarrassed and quite frankly so am I) or if I am just more acidic than normal? We have been tested for STD's since we have been trying to have a baby also and the clinic requires it for IVF, so we are clean when it comes to std's.
I started taking probiotics recently hoping that would help but it hasn't. If he doesn't shower within 30 minutes of us doing it then it starts with the flaky skin and goes down hill from there. It really kills intimacy.
The flakes you are referring to isn't his skin it is your female lubricant that has dried on him and is flaking off. Totally normal.
No it really isn't me and it doesn't explain the rest of what is going on. He can wash himself very well and he will still get flaky skin. It's if he doesn't wash at all that his skin goes black sort of like when you get a new bruise.
That's very interesting. Do you use and lubricants etc. that might be the cause? How long does the discoloration last? Is it painful or irritating?
We use astroglid but even when we don't it still happens. We have tried eliminating the lube and when it still happened then we assumed it was either one of us. The discoloration usually lasts a week, he said it's sort of irritating but more gross to look at than anything. Being that we are both Caucasian, it's pretty noticeable to the both of us.
In past relationships of mine (3 previous to this) and this has never happened. He said this never happened with him and his exes.
This has been bothering me since it started, years ago. I want to know what it is, and if it can be stopped, cured or something, you know?!
Yea hmmm sounds like it is actual bruising. Does things get fairly aggressive? Have you tried just having him in you without any friction and seeing if it still gets discolored?
Yea hmmm sounds like it is actual bruising. Does things get fairly aggressive? Have you tried just having him in you without any friction and seeing if it still gets discolored?
It's not actual bruising, I said it LOOKS like a bruise but it isn't. We don't have rough sex at all. I have tried, lol but he likes to be sensual as he calls it.
Lube, no lube, no friction at all... he <b>only</b> gets the discoloration if he doesn't shower. If he showers, the discoloration does not appear.
I think I am going to wait and see if someone else has something else to say. I feel like I am being redundant with this conversation (no offense).
Although it might be a bit embarrassing, this really is something you might need a doctor to check out. It is nothing I have ever heard of, but a doctor would likely have an easy answer for you, and it is nothing to be embarrassed over. Doctors are very used to seeing everything under the sun, and it might not even be something that he/she would need to examine. Since it has caused both of you such concern, I bet a few minutes of feeling a bit uncomfortable would be well worth it for both of you. I wish you well..
Flaky and sometimes black skin from sex?!? 
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