question about wifes comments on "size"
 

ok... i am new here and well... I am not sure where else to turn. Its kind of an embarrassing subject, so I didn't want to bring it up to my friends.

My wife has said, on multiple occasions, that her ex was much larger than me.... how am I supposed to really react to this? I am not experienced, we have been married for a while... but I was only with one other girl, she was with more men.

Thanks,

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I would ask her "what's your point?"

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[QUOTE=rosequartz;5059716]I would ask her "what's your point?"[/QUOTE]

i kind of have... she said "oh nothing, i was just saying...."

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i guess... the big thing to me... is... does this mean shes thinking about her ex's penis during sex if she brings up how much bigger he is?

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It must be in her thoughts or she wouldn't say this. Is she a b**ch about other things as well, or just your sex life? That is just mean and nasty. Sorry for you, Sera

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I agree, that is a TOTALLY nasty thing for her to say. Does she actually expect you not to have hurt feelings over the comparison? That's just so rude and unloving. So sorry!!
I don't think that she's necessarily thinking of her ex
and wishing it were him, rather than you, but I don't know WHAT she expects you to do with what she's saying to you. I would tell you to start talking to her about your ex with the larger breasts,
but you're too good, to get down to her level.

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Thanks! But I really do love her. Should I just ignore it? or should I ask her to be honest and if there is something underlying that i need to know? To me... both of those choices bring up issues.

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I don't think you should just ignore it. I mean, it's incredibly ignorant of her and she should stop.

Basically, she's either mean or clueless (when it comes to this) and since you love her and don't want to make it nasty, give her the benefit of the doubt and the next time she throws it out there, just let her know you'd rather not be reminded of this.

If she does it again after that, then I would ask her why she did it and see how it goes from there.

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this probably sounds cowardly... but I text her and asked her what the deal was... I just was less embarrassed than saying it in person.

she admitted to me that she wishes i was bigger... im rather speechless now....

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You need to find if she has been cheating on her ex while with you if a woman loves you no woman would have fetch up ex's penis size to a loved 1 would be abit like you saying my ex had bigger breats then you hunny/darling. but it wouldnt be nice and its not nice her fetchig it up

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Man that's terrible! She's your wife!

I'd have been all "and I wish you were tighter", lol. (No, not really.)

You gotta talk to her about this face to face. She married you, so obviously it wasn't a deal breaker, but now you have to talk about making sure she lets it go, because complaining about it isn't going to change its size. And make sure she's satisfied other ways, because it isn't all about the penis.

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we had a long talk about things this weekend... that part was nice. At least we can still talk i guess. She says shes happy in other way, says I am the best at other parts. That's the good news. The bad news is... she thinks mine is too little. She says, and I am not sure how much to believe, that she truly thought she would get used to it, and when she didn't, she tried to ignore it and just enjoy it. But over time... she just cant.

My head is just spinning... i don't know what to think.

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Sorry for carrying on so much, I really hate airing my business out to strangers, but its nice to actually have a discussion.

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I feel like i said too much. I am sorry if i offended anyone.

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i don't think you offended anyone iowaguy!
we're here to help!

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I think that what people are offended about is your wife's inconsiderate attitude toward you! I'm so sorry to hear that she has said this to you because it's very rude of her. I'm really not sure what you should do but I would start telling her how hurtful it is for her continually compare you to her ex! Ask her how she would feel if you kept saying over and over again that your ex had a much nicer body than she does or something. It's such a rude thing for her to say and she needs to know that she needs to stop the comparing.

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I think you should ask for a divorce cause she will never be faithfull to you now that she mentioned your penis not been good like her ex she will more likely cheat again i think she is abit ignorant like the woman said if you started saying your ex had nice firmer breasts and nice hot body think she would divorce you on that alone

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well.... i think i finally got to the bottom of these issues. My wife wants to know if we can bring in another man to join, so she can experience big again. ive suggested toys, but she says those just arent the same.

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To iowaguy79 You have lost her now mate because now i think you will be in no win suitation to bringing another man in if you say NO and mean it she will more likely divorce you. But if you agree to it with what your statement is you will lose her to her ex. Cause i think she will go off with him i do think the other man is more likely to be her ex

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can i ask personel question mate why is your wife's ex an ex for did she ever tell you why? Because the other man is always gonna be the ex with what you said about her ex