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Old 11-12-2012, 10:32 PM   #1
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rejected and feeling unworthy

Been married 9 years..husband has low sex drive even though he looks at porn hurts when he brushes me off and then i see him in front of the computer in a dazed stupor. He has more excuses/cop outs than all the wives with headaches!
We are in a round and round spiral..i try getting him interested with naughty nities, and let him take nude
Photos....but even with he is hit or miss...i feel
rejected lonely angry confused.. ive been fighting depression...but i keep trying over and over to seduce him...then im iritated and let down and he becomes more distant..its a vicious circle i fear that im sending him bad vibes, but he has caused them...i miss the sincere loving man i very said right now cuz he took shower and convinced myself he would want to be intimate...i tried kissing and caressing him with my fingertips, he sighed and said he was just too tired....and that my persistance made him feel guilty...i do not want a romp because he feels guilty or to stop my bad feelings...i want him to want me cuz of hunger, desire , and need...but again i have been rejected. I feel insignificant im angry and hurt hence the vicious circle...should i just give up and deal with it?

Someone please help me before he and i crash and burn!

Thank you

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Old 11-13-2012, 10:57 AM   #2
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Re: rejected and feeling unworthy

you shouldn't give up and give in......he's the one that should be giving up something......the porn.....

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Re: rejected and feeling unworthy

I know porn is a great target and gets blamed for a lot of problems (I'm not trying to turn this into a "porn" thread) but that's an easy out in many cases. Give me a break! Unfortunately, humans are much more complex than that and I suspect there's much much more going on in the relationship than just "he looks at porn". I'd ask the OP to do some soul searching and try to get to the bottom of what all the issues in play may be. Honestly, there were times in my life where my sex life was fabulous and I still liked to look at porn sometimes. Then others where it wasn't and I would look sometimes and others, not so much. The point is that the porn wasn't remotely the reason my sex life (I say "my" but I'm meaning is "my wife and I") ebbed and flowed. It's just human nature.

I urge you (the OP) to not take the "easy out" and do some reflecting. I'm sure you'll come up with things the two of you need to work on. Good Luck.

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