I recently had intercourse for the first time with my boyfriend and we encountered a problem. His penis is approximately 9" when erect and it is pretty thick. And i just want to clarify something before people start saying that a vagina can stretch out to the size of a baby, i got used to the thickness of my boyfriend's penis, so this is not a problem. The real problem is his length. I can't take him all in because he hits my cervix and it hurts like a b*tch. I really tried relaxing, i told him to go slow and just stay in me for a while until i got used to it but nothing helped. And the other problem we have is that he can't finish because of that. He says it takes a pretty long time for him to finish even when he masturbates because of his size (i don't know if that's true, but it seems logical). So long story short, i can't take him all in because it hurts me and because of that he can't get pleasure when we are having sex. Do you have any advice for us? It would really mean a lot
My partner has told me a similar thing, I am 6'5, she is 5'6 or so...
Sex is brilliant, when we have some, but on the odd occasion when we are a few minutes into it and getting more aroused I tend to get faster and faster, and in the beginning before I learnt what I was doing and she told me, she would wince with pain when I was obviously too far in.
Now, having talked about it I just have to take it more steady, and more importantly not penetrate too deep. For your situation, I suppose penetrative intercourse for a while, but with a good bit of foreplay and then 'finishing off' by other means.
You can buy gels and different lubricants that are meant to highten sensation, so this may be an option to explore to help him finish quicker.
Good luck !
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First, he did not finish because he's afraid in hurting you.
Second, you want him to go slow.
How to match them and get a solution?
*sigh*
I had told in many forum. Woman prefers girth and hardness but not length, if asking the physical aspect.
Briefer way, is move on. That's the last option IF he kept blaming you for not finishing his ejaculation. Do you want the whole life having a mace hitting inside you?
Ok, let's start with communication. See if he can understand what you want or not? If not, then egotistic may be the reason for ending the relationship.
I recently had intercourse for the first time with my boyfriend and we encountered a problem. His penis is approximately 9" when erect and it is pretty thick. And i just want to clarify something before people start saying that a vagina can stretch out to the size of a baby, i got used to the thickness of my boyfriend's penis, so this is not a problem. The real problem is his length. I can't take him all in because he hits my cervix and it hurts like a b*tch. I really tried relaxing, i told him to go slow and just stay in me for a while until i got used to it but nothing helped. And the other problem we have is that he can't finish because of that. He says it takes a pretty long time for him to finish even when he masturbates because of his size (i don't know if that's true, but it seems logical). So long story short, i can't take him all in because it hurts me and because of that he can't get pleasure when we are having sex. Do you have any advice for us? It would really mean a lot
Maybe you could show him this post that you made and the replies. Maybe he doesn't understand that he is really hurting you.
Good luck.
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