In dire need of help.

NavrasX

I'm not 100% sure if I should be posting this here or in the women's sex health forum but here it goes..

Just a little background before starting, my girlfriend has been masturbating for years. I am talking YEARS. It started when she was an infant from what she told me. Her mom took her to the doctor and he said that was normal(I don't find that normal) and that she found a way to self sooth to fall asleep. Well, she was masturbating since she was little all the way through her teens and even now. She was always able to orgasm when she masturbated.

We were talking for three months, and have been dating a little over 6. We have been sexually active those 6 months. She had one other sexual partner before me, but that pisses me off thinking about it due to what happened so lets not go there. Now for the most part in the beginning sex always hurt her. She was still very tight and sort of dry unless we used lube which helped. The issue is that she can not orgasm from anything but her own hand. We saw a sex therapist who recommended Sensate focus as well as using toys of which we did both. She purchased both a fake dong and a vibrator. She hates the way the fake dong feels and barely uses the vibrator. We have tried several different positions including on her side, on her stomach, bent over the bed as well as on top. But missionary seems to be the only one where she actually gets anything out of it. Now I know the statistics say 80% of women or so cant orgasm from penetration, which is okay. I just want her to orgasm from something else period. I have done everything that she has asked me to do, including oral of which I am not a fan of but at this point I am willing to do anything. We have done everything possible. Shes taken all kinds of vitamins to help, shes smoked weed which was supposed to help. Made it feel amazing but no orgasm. Right now we are at the point where she can masturbate using my hand and she can orgasm from that, but that's it. If I do it, nothing. I feel like its affecting our relationship. I'm trying my best. On a side note, I am not huge. But she says for her my size is perfect(I guess sometimes size doesn't matter lol) Whenever its discussed she breaks down and starts crying. Even when just cuddling in bed trying to go to sleep she starts crying. She feels broken. She wants to know why she cant enjoy the things other women do. I feel terrible, almost blaming myself. At one point I thought she would cheat on me because I wasn't making her orgasm. She said she would never do that, but the terrible things running through my mind at the time lead in that direction. I truly do not know what to do anymore. I've done everything, I've tried everything. I am at a total loss and feel like a failure. She thinks shes the only one who is affected by this when I am having amazing orgasms and shes sitting there unsatisfied. I keep telling her I wish I could transfer half of what I feel to her so she can feel it. Heck, I would give her 75% if it made her happy. Does anyone have any suggestions or anything? What can I do to help her? I personally feel, as well as other people that this is a psychological issue and that her body is so used to one thing that's all it wants. In a way she ruined sex for herself. We are trying to undo that damage. The therapist didn't agree with me which makes me question her credibility. But I truly don't know what to do here. If anyone can shed some light, if they had a similar issue and found a cure, please share. If any women are reading this, please comment as well. This is all I want, more than anything.