Originally Posted by munky_atwa
I have been seeing this girl for about 6 months now. Every time she tries to give me oral or use her hand my penis will not become erect. She has probably tried on at least 10 different occasions to give me oral and/or use her hand and only once has my penis become erect. Before her I did date a girl for 3 years and we were sexual active and I never had any problem like this. Now with this new girl I cant seem to get an erection. I receently have also slept with my ex and I had no problem getting an erection with her either. Why with this new girl can I not seem to get an erection. I am attracted to her a lot and it is very frustrating. Can anyone offer any advice or at least some professional I may be able to talk too.
You say you like this girl "a lot". Perhaps you are afraid to disappoint her in some fashion and it's weighing on you to the point you can't perform. Has she been with other men other than you? Has she talked about her past relationships/sexual experiences? Has she said something to you about them either positive or negative that might lead you to subconsciously feel that you might disappoint her in some way, or not measure up to those she was with before you?
Or maybe she's more aggressive than you are, and you are feeling pressured.