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Old 05-26-2004, 11:02 AM   #1
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hello...
i've been going through many threads in which men seem to clain that they can last for about 15 mins while having intercourse.
my fiancee only lasts for about 2 mins (sumtimes even less).
our sex life is great so plz dont get me wrong.
i'm not complaining.
just that i can never orgasm through intercourse which i feel is partly due to the fact that it lasts for such a short while.
any ideas on how to make him last longer?
thanx,
tara

 
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Old 05-26-2004, 12:28 PM   #2
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Re: how to make him last longer???

honey, i wish i knew the answer to this question bc my man has the same problem sometimes and it can be EXTREMELY frustrating. There's always the stop and start method but it seems in my case my honey can't always tell when he's about to be at the point of no return. *SiGh*

SO, fellas out there got any tips! We'd be oh-so appreciative!

 
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Old 05-26-2004, 01:28 PM   #3
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Re: how to make him last longer???

There's a book out there called something like "How to make love all night(and drive a woman wild). it will take some time to get ready, but it tells men how to become multi orgasmic.... might help you all some.

 
Old 05-26-2004, 03:23 PM   #4
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Re: how to make him last longer???

My husband has the same problem usually lasts for 2 min or less. If you find anything that works please share the info. We have been together for 5 years now and he wont see a doctor. It gets so frustrating.

 
Old 05-26-2004, 04:19 PM   #5
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Re: how to make him last longer???

i could last up to 30 to 45 mins...I honestly dont know how but when i first started off i lasted for mins....The thing is now i can last a lot longer without actually reaching the oragasm but when i about to i change sexual positions...The other thing is to control the sperm flow is for him to practice while mestarbuating, when hes about to orgasm he stops and lets it go for 15 secs than again until he reaches it again, than stop again, it helps the male control it more and he could last longer

 
Old 05-26-2004, 05:49 PM   #6
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Re: how to make him last longer???

A man that can barely last for 2 minutes who has sex once a week might last for 20 minutes if he has sex 3 or 4 times a week.

This is frustrating for men, too, and very, very difficult. Few women, on the verge of orgasm, would be able to simply will it to go away.

The stop and start method can work - when he stops, he can peform oral sex on you - and this rotation back and forth can lead to powerful orgasms for women. Many men, too, will find that after a few minutes of this, the urge to orgasm dies down and they can then last much longer - almost like a switch goes off.

Condoms can reduce sensitivity; he can try a numbing cream (i.e. Mandelay); he can have an ejaculation beforehand....

 
Old 05-26-2004, 09:29 PM   #7
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Re: how to make him last longer???

Hey.

I have heard sooo many women complain of this and I really think magnetic had a good idea.. My husband and I use the stop and go method and the man tires me out.. Ofcoarse the more sex you have the better the problem should get, but sometimes that doesn't work. My hubbie does something similar to Kegal exercises where he works out the muscles down there contracting and retracting. He never has had a stamina problem, but my cousin complains of her hubbie doing the same thing you described and she said that her man will pulll out and she will grab tight of him with her hand, and after that he will go longer. I don't know though..I read in a med journal that a man that can't last longer than 3 mins consistently is consider to be a premature ejaculator.. So maybe if the problem persits he should see a Doc...
Sorry so long I hope that helps, and hope it gets better lol....

amberley

 
Old 05-27-2004, 09:50 AM   #8
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The other thing is to control the sperm flow is for him to practice while mestarbuating, when hes about to orgasm he stops and lets it go for 15 secs than again until he reaches it again, than stop again, it helps the male control it more and he could last longer
OK, first of all, make sure the man ends his masturbation session with orgasm. I've tried this, but not allowing myself to orgasm for fear that I wouldn't be able to perform later that evening (I'm 41) and I think I caused some ED problems on myself. I get hard when we start, but loose it during foreplay and have had difficulties regaining the hardness to start intercourse. But, I do think this method could work, as long as he orgasms at the end of the masturbation.

As far as frequency goes...when it has been more than 3 days since my last orgasm, I have trouble controlling it until after a few start and stops. My wife would prefer it if I didn't have to do this, so the other day I masturbated in the morning then used viagra that night for our intimacy. We also use condoms, btw. I lasted a looooong time, long enough for her to tell me she was ready for me to come, even with no stopping at all. She thought I had used mandelay, but in reality, I just didn't have as much a sensual feeling, more like not as many nerve endings active on my member. I was surprised, but pleased. I could have lasted all night if I had wanted.

Also, I find that if I get hot down there while we are doing it, my urge to orgasm is diminished. Now, heat can also cause ED problems for me (even 10 years ago), so "use with caution" . I would also love to use the withdrawal and lick method - I love oral sex!! But, don't think my wife would be real crazy about it. I guess I should suggest it next time.

I hope you can work it out.

 
Old 05-27-2004, 12:27 PM   #9
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Re: how to make him last longer???

I used to only last about 2 minutes, but now I'm up to about an hour if I really try hard. Here's how I did it:

1. Stop masturbating! It's a myth that this will help you last longer if you do it more often. But in actuality, you are just completely messing with your sense of touch and feeling and conditioning your penis to get used to your hand and not a vagina.
2. Work on your "pee" muscles at least 2-3 times a day. When using the bathroom, stop the flow in mid-stream. During the day, squeeze and contract those muscles as you watch TV or drive in the car. After about 2-3 weeks, the difference will be amazing.
3. Take 20mg of Prozac three times a week, on Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

I GUARANTEE that after a month (no sooner), you will go from a few minutes to at least 15 minutes.

 
Old 05-27-2004, 03:57 PM   #10
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I used to only last about 2 minutes, but now I'm up to about an hour if I really try hard. Here's how I did it:

1. Stop masturbating! It's a myth that this will help you last longer if you do it more often. But in actuality, you are just completely messing with your sense of touch and feeling and conditioning your penis to get used to your hand and not a vagina.
2. Work on your "pee" muscles at least 2-3 times a day. When using the bathroom, stop the flow in mid-stream. During the day, squeeze and contract those muscles as you watch TV or drive in the car. After about 2-3 weeks, the difference will be amazing.
3. Take 20mg of Prozac three times a week, on Monday, Wednesday and Friday.

I GUARANTEE that after a month (no sooner), you will go from a few minutes to at least 15 minutes.
I've done #2 for over a year now, doing 10-second squeezes more than 50 times a day. I even do 1-minute ones sometimes. Doing them right now. They help me stop the orgasm from happening as long as I also stop stroking. My wife doesn't really like it when I stop, so that's only an OK solution.

#1? I think I conditioned myself to orgasm quickly when I was younger and wanted to do it quickly when I masturbated. This why I advocated the start and stop technique, to retrain yourself that you don't have to come as fast as possible. I don't know if it works, yet.

#3. I've heard of using meds to control PE. I guess it works for you. Did you get a perscription?

Anyway, I'm still battling it. Mandelay on just the underside of the 'helmet' does wonders for control. I am using condoms, too, so that helps. Used to use naturallamb and had a lot more difficulty controlling it.

 
Old 05-27-2004, 11:22 PM   #11
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Re: how to make him last longer???

Being a 2 min man is frustrating for the male as well as the female......if a guy can't last longer than two min..he just needs to work on it lasting longer try not to think bout what your doing i mean she may have a terffic body but if you start thinking bout something while your in her you may go longer....I mean when I'm in my partner its good we go a long time i am thinking bout that football game or that tv program anything to get your mind off having intercouse while your having inter course I know this sounds pertty stupid .... anyway she don't need to know what your thinking if it will help you last longer? right!.... but if it can work for me it may work for you??.and the both of you will be very well satisfied....its usally the moaning and screeming that gets me off to soon....I think also alchol will make you last longer but I don't want to tell anyone to do that just to last longer?

if this don't work....try the stop and start

my partner some times complains bout me lasting to long/ rubb her raw and she hates that!!! so you can over last....lol
anyway good luck you can do it think positive!!!

 
Old 05-28-2004, 02:41 AM   #12
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Re: how to make him last longer???

hey thanx for the replies guys.
now i'm just wondering how to tell my fiancee about all this.
i mean i dont want to make him seem like a useless lover (which he is not)...
at times i like it fast and short as well but other times i would just want to have something a bit slower and more romantic if u know what i mean.
any ideas on how to tell him about this without hurting his feelings?
any help would be greatly appreciated.
thanx,
tara

 
Old 05-28-2004, 06:35 AM   #13
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Re: how to make him last longer???

One of the most difficult things I do is try to orgasm once "I'm over the hump" so to speak. Once I get past that urge to orgasm, she'll eventually tell me she wants me to, and at that point, I have to start thinking intensely about what we're doing, look at our bodies...anything to add that extra stimulation to blow it out. What do you do when she has had enough, but you're not ready yet? On top of that (no pun intended hahaha), I get real hot when having sex, so my wife is ready for it to be over when I start sweating (we're going to try some alternative positions next time...).

 
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Old 05-28-2004, 07:24 AM   #15
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Re: how to make him last longer???

Let me post this one more time and I will stop (until the next time ). What about the drug being developed specifically for premature ejaculation? It is called dapoxetine. Several months ago I asked about this and a couple of people responded who were taking part in the clinical trial. You guys still out there? I have done a good bit of looking on the web and all you can basically find is the same generic press release saying that it is in it's 3rd stage of clinical trials. I think it's an SSRI (could be wrong), but for some reason is geared more specifically to treating PE. I did read where it could possibly be ready for "sale" as early as 2005. Anybody know anything more in-depth?

 
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