didn't climax during sex - Sexual Health - Men Message Board

tshont · 06-22-2004, 06:59 PM

I recently wrote that my boyfriend couldn't climax through oral sex (only by masterbating) and everyone said it was fairly normal. Well today, we had amazing sex for 30-45 minutes and he did not climax, he just went flacid.

I feel like I am not good enough. Any advice?

Magnetic · 06-22-2004, 07:29 PM

I presume you mean that he was unable to climax via oral sex. If so, this is still not abnormal. If a guy can't orgasm this way in 5 minutes, then 45 minutes won't make it better. After a while, one can kind of get numb.

It is probably not you. Well, it could be you in that your technique is not what he needs to orgasm, but I am pretty certain he enjoys what you are doing. Don't get so hung up on it as you will only start to make him feel inadequate.

Saka · 06-22-2004, 07:51 PM

My bf is exactly the same. It is even quite a feat for him to orgasm through regular sex and I often have to give him a hand job afterwards. At first I thought it was me but I know it isn't. He wouldn't want to have sex or get head jobs from me so often if he wasn't enjoying it.

Just go with it and don't beat yourself up over it. I think of the other side too. I've never come through oral sex before but I still love it. It has nothing to do with his technique though, it's just me.

tshont · 06-22-2004, 08:18 PM

no today when we had regular intercourse, he could not climax

ssguy · 06-22-2004, 08:20 PM

Dont feel that it is you because it probably is not you at all, it could be a number of things even a physical problem.