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Old 10-24-2004, 07:46 PM   #1
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Red face I need help with a fetish

I have this fetish for stilettos and high heels the ones with the pointy toes. Thats not to bad, but the part that bothers me alot is that I want girls to kick me in the balls with them. Now I have been hit there a bit, I know it hurts like hell. But I get so turned on just seeing a girl wearing those boots and would almost do anything to have her kick me with them. I want some kind of help for this. I don't feel good about myself being like this. I'm the nicest guy otherwise though. If anyone else is like this or can offer any kind of help, it would be very helpful. Thanks.

 
Old 10-24-2004, 09:07 PM   #2
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Re: I need help with a fetish

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I have this fetish for stilettos and high heels the ones with the pointy toes. Thats not to bad, but the part that bothers me alot is that I want girls to kick me in the balls with them. Now I have been hit there a bit, I know it hurts like hell. But I get so turned on just seeing a girl wearing those boots and would almost do anything to have her kick me with them. I want some kind of help for this. I don't feel good about myself being like this. I'm the nicest guy otherwise though. If anyone else is like this or can offer any kind of help, it would be very helpful. Thanks.
You have a sado-fetish. Your wanting to be kicked in the jewels is about on par with someone wanting to be "spanked" or tied up before sex. I don't think it's so unusual. I have my own little fetish where I like a girl to "take charge" by throwing me down on the bed and forcing herself on me. This is a HUGE turn on and if she wants to slap me around a little but first, Im all fine with that. Of course, I would'nt want her breaking any bones or trying to fillet me open with a steak knife or anything...lol. A lot of people like rough, punishment-type sex as it gets the hormones flowing nicely I think

 
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Old 10-25-2004, 05:07 PM   #3
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Re: I need help with a fetish

I do kind of understand what it is. The problem I am having is that it makes me feel bad about my self. I was wondering if there is anyway to change that, so that I can just be normal. I have talked to some girls about this fantasy, but there aren't very many girls that think it's a good thing. Besides I do want kids someday. And getting kicked like that isn't going to help.

 
Old 10-27-2004, 11:06 PM   #4
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Re: I need help with a fetish

Dude here is a little advise. Get over it. And i mean that in a nice way. For all we know, this fetish could lead to testicle cancer or something, and thats no joke mate. Just that thought alone should send shivers down your spine and make you realize that it just aint worth it. Good luck anyway.

 
Old 10-28-2004, 02:57 PM   #5
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Ouch! man I dont think that would be a good idea, even if it did happen I doubt you would be turned on afterwards with all that pain. You might not even be able to get it up anymore. I think you should just leave this as a fantasy that never happens. But don't feel bad about it. Everyone has their weird fetishes.

 
Old 12-03-2004, 08:55 PM   #6
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Re: I need help with a fetish

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I have this fetish for stilettos and high heels the ones with the pointy toes. Thats not to bad, but the part that bothers me alot is that I want girls to kick me in the balls with them. Now I have been hit there a bit, I know it hurts like hell. But I get so turned on just seeing a girl wearing those boots and would almost do anything to have her kick me with them. I want some kind of help for this. I don't feel good about myself being like this. I'm the nicest guy otherwise though. If anyone else is like this or can offer any kind of help, it would be very helpful. Thanks.
There are two distinct things going on here:

1. You have a fetish. You are turned on by a set of props (high heels), by the anticipation of a specific atmosphere (submitting to a dominant woman), and by the idea of extremely rough treatment at her hands.

2. You feel really guilty about it.

I would suggest that the second issue is the one you need to get over; otherwise you'll never come to terms with the first. Often, a desire will increase as it is denied. Conversely, addressing it in a sane, safe manner can lead to a couple of different outcomes--you will either find pleasure and fulfillment, or, the fantasy will lose its hold on you and you will move on in new directions. Either way, you win.

You should do a little homework; there's a whole world of people out there who engage in precisely the type of behavior you fantasize about, and they quite enjoy themselves. Don't be surprised that not every woman you meet will be into this type of play. However, those that are tend to take it seriously and treat it as a legitimate activity, whether part-time or livestyle. You should educate yourself; do a search on fetishes. You'll turn up a lot of porn sites, but you'll also turn up serious information/education sites that are only too glad to provide accurate, sane guidance, and also aid in connecting with communities of like-minded folks near you.

You can find a partner, if you look. Understand, I'm not suggesting any kind of "professional". You have a specific desire and you would like to find a person who understands the Dominant/Submissive lifestyle, respects limits, embraces the need for safe, sane play, and will explore your limits with you. They are only too glad to find you as well.

It's quite possible that the role-playing itself is what you would find most appealing. There are ways of fulfilling a fetish fantasy short of self-destruction. Velvet whips and Velcro handcuffs are two ways some indulge their shadowy side without taking a headlong plunge into the abyss. With a willing, creative partner, all things are possible.

While we don't have to be slaves to our reflexes, what turns us on is, to a large degree, hard-wired. If desires and fantasies can be fulfilled, in ways that do no damage to yourself or society, is there a reason to remain unhappy?
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Old 12-03-2004, 09:09 PM   #7
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Re: I need help with a fetish

My $0.02:

A lot of the time people have fantasies that turn them on incredibly, but when they actually get played out, it's not as much of a turn on as they'd hoped. For example, LonelyTraveller likes it when a girl "forces" herself on him, but I doubt he'd be turned on in a real situation where somebody was forcing him to do something (as in he seriously said for her to stop and she wouldn't listen). Instead, he has a compromise - he gets to be thrown around but in a safe, controlled environment (sorry if I'm getting this wrong, LonelyTraveller - tell me if I'm full of crap )

Maybe you could compromise: don't have a girl kick you with heels, but if she plants her foot in your groin (not kicking, just pressing not *too* hard) while you're giving her oral sex or something, maybe that would get you off while still keeping the family jewels intact? Just a thought...

 
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