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Old 11-08-2004, 04:04 PM   #1
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20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

Hi everyone!Well, i know there are lot of threads like this one, but, i dont find exactly the same case as mine.

Im a 20 years old boy. Whats is happening to me?:

I can masturbate, have orgams...but my libido is somehow low since 3 years ago.

My penis only becomes erect by touching myself (although i can notice sometimes a little of "reaction", and my penis gets a little wet when im in bed playing with my girlfriend)...

But...i mean...3 years ago i had ERECTIONS just thinking about sex, or just having random erections. But now, i have to start masturbating to get them. Then, when the penis is erected, i have to touch myself to MAINTAIN the erection. If i dont touch myself, it goes flaccid. Because of this, ive got a problem with my girlfriend :_(. I really love her, and we want to make love. It happens as it follows: I start masturbating, then i put the condom myself, but when i stop masturbating it goes flaccid and i cannot make love to her..the erection just doesnt last :_( !

Other symptoms:

Sometimes i notice a kind of discomfort/pain in my chest, near my heart...specially while/after masturbating!!

After masturbating myself, i feel kind of weekness, and it lasts an entire day to feel a little better.

Also, generally speaking, i feel most of the time soo tired and low of energy!!

Also, ive got chronic tonsillitis (tonsil stones,i dont know if it can affect)

When i was 12 i has a varicocele. The first operation of varicocele didnt work, so the operated me twice to get the varicocele problem solved (but i still find ive got a little of varicocele)

Ive had standard blood tests done, and everything was OK.
I had chest x-ray, and it was OK also. I had an electrocardiogram, and it was OK too. And they checked my back with magnetic resonancy and it was OK too.

Sometimes i think ive got a problem of heart, but they made me an electrocardiogram sometime ago, and it was OK too.

Also, ive thought of a level of testosterone, or hormones or something...and finally ive thought it may be some kind of hided illness ive got...im really confused and worried!

Please, help me!! I want to make love to my girlfriend, and i want to have erections (without having to masturbate all the time to get them), and i dont want to be always low of energy!

What do you think it happens to me?

Im afraid to tell my parents...its an embarrasing problem. Well, maybe i'll tell them...but first i'll like to listen to your replies...and see what is the problem...and the solution or the best doctor to go.

THANKS A LOT!! REPLY PLEASE!

And sorry 4 the bad english...

 
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Old 11-08-2004, 04:21 PM   #2
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Hey dude You had surgery on your varicole.whatever.....i'm good at meds but not anatomy....i'll get to it some day. Anyway. YOu need to see only one doctor and a good one. A urogological surgeon. The reason is he will do 4D (new tech) ultrasound and radio contrast mri and enough possibly a PET scan if your insurance pays. Then he may recommend Androgel a testosterone gel, plus teslac, and an estrogen blocker to keep your testosterone up at about 700 ng/dl. But however you need your andrenal functions tested too. This fainting and dizzy spells your regular doctor should have done more test. YOu need to wear a heart monitor all day. A lot of ppl do that, a treadmill test, even a ecg. But for worse erectile dysfunciton they can surgically redo vessals of blood if you need more supply to the penis and scrotum......now boy does that not sound like a plan? they can take a big ripe one and hook it right up. that will definitely make you have erection. Now if the three drugs viagra, cialis, and levitra dont work. They have a muse system that's like sticking a small tiny pill in your penis. It will make you hard or carverject with the same drug. A new one that is like a eye dropper into your penis slit is trying to come out or perhaps the urinologist can have a compound pharmacy rx this to you combined with a rx penis pump and even one of the three oral pills and there is one other drugs stars with a p i forget to inject......Don't forget about you can buy things to insert in your anus.......that will stimulate your prostate gland and you will have a ripe erection......I myself have a sluth of problems

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Old 11-08-2004, 04:30 PM   #3
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

Thanks a lot!! Fast reply!

I think i definetely will go to an urogological surgeon, and have some tests done! I want to find out what the hell is hapening with me!

About surgically redoing blood vessels of my penis, or taking viagra, cialis...I really hope they find some better solution, im hoping they find out whats happening to me with the test...i mean...if they dont find anything...i would hate to take viagra at 20 years old :_(.

Thanks againg for the reply

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Old 11-09-2004, 02:39 PM   #4
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

hi again! well, this is to comment more symptoms i notice:

I use to go to the gym regularly, and when i exercices my muscles, i notice some kind of tremor. I mean, its very noticeable. So, the thing is: while im doing biceps, abdominals...they do tremors all the time!

Another symptom is yawns. I do a LOT of yawns during the day, but i sleep OK. And these yawns, are not as always, i dont know how to describe it, but are yawns as if my body needs more air or something...

Maybe...is these are more symptoms without any importance...but maybe will help you to know what happens to me?

Also, i dont know where to go first: to the urogological or to the heart doctor?

 
Old 11-09-2004, 05:29 PM   #5
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

I don't know, this just might be a shot in the dark, but could you possibly have sleep apnea? That would explain the part about being tired.

 
Old 11-10-2004, 06:21 AM   #6
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

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I don't know, this just might be a shot in the dark, but could you possibly have sleep apnea? That would explain the part about being tired.

This could be possible. As i said, ive got chronic tonsillitis, so maybe this causes sleep apnea...maybe not...But i dont know...sometimes i feel that tonsillitis is the cause of everything and im thinking of taking the tonsils out by operating...

Any idea about the muscle tremors when doing exercice?

And by the way...can chronic tonsillitis (tonsil stones, etc...) cause the symptoms ive got?

 
Old 11-12-2004, 12:10 PM   #7
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

hi! ive got some news...:

Usually i use to masturbate once per day. But now, ive tried not doing it for 3/4 days. And the result is that...the erection problem seems to still be there, BUT i feel way much better, with many more energy!

Any comment about this?

Thanx!

 
Old 11-14-2004, 02:39 PM   #8
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

Hi again! Nobody says nothing now

Well, ive got some news. After 4 days without masturbation, i was feeling OK and more energetic. But today ive masturbated and im feeling really bad. I im really tired. Ive got that pain near the heart zone. I dont have energy...

Tell me somethiing pleaseee

 
Old 01-02-2005, 02:28 AM   #9
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aefef - I have the same problem. I have all day tired. I have problems with energy and physical activities. My experience is that mybe you have deppression (I have). Same religions (as Japaneese and Cheneese) says that if men's mastrubating he have loss of energy. I am hurting by this problem over than 6 years and my life is going badder. The same is about erection and fast orgasms. Maybe you found an answer for this problem? Maybe you can tell about other your simphtoms (like: psyhical, dayly and other problems)....

 
Old 01-02-2005, 08:50 AM   #10
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

Thanks for replying, Postmortem

Well, im not sure about what is the cause of my symptoms. I havent gone to the doctor yet, because if i want to go, i need my mother to call the doctor...but i dont want to tell her anything. It's too embarrassing...I don't know what to do.

What I find very clear is the relation between masturbation and being tired. Ive been experimenting, and if i stay for example 3 days without masturbation i'm more energetic, and i my penis can mantain the erection for more time. But as soon as i masturbate, i feel weak, and i have to wait a lot of time to be energetic again.

Explain me your symptoms please

 
Old 01-03-2005, 01:20 PM   #11
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Thank you for you letter! Are you from Europe? Maybe Russia? Nevermind - I am just interested.


My sindroms is weakness and feeling of irreal living, eiforia. Other things I don't know in english. But I will search for them. I can't concentrate on nothing. It's very evil for work, learnings etc.
I wasn't mastrubating about 1 month and feeled a little better. When I readed your post, I wanted to probe will be it repeating. And yes - tirednes come on again, but in much smaller quantity. Sorry, about my english.
And else. I have got a girlfriend, who wants more sex... You know, all 2 times, when we make love. I have fast orgasms and bad erection. I searched and readed a training for erection, which needs mastrubation terapy. But I am afraid about weakness and other simptoms. Maybe we can help one other in this VERY TERRIBLE problem. I think so.


I am wishing you to defeat this problem !!!! Because I know how hard is it! ))


 
Old 01-04-2005, 02:56 AM   #12
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

Hi again! Yes, i'm from Europe! Hehe. I know my English is very bad, isn't it? Well, ive got the same symptoms as you. The worst one is the weakness, but, as you, ive also have big problems in concentrating, learning..!! When i stop masturbating for a period of time I feel better, more energetic! I think you are in a better situation than me, because you say: "when i make love with my girlfriend". Well, i tried some times to make love to her, but i'm not able! The erection doesn't last enough when i put the condom :_( !! I guess the only solution is going to the doctor, or trying to stay a lot of time without masturbating and then i'll try to make love and see what happens.

Reply soon please, i'm very sad because of all these :_(


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Thank you for you letter! Are you from Europe? Maybe Russia? Nevermind - I am just interested.


My sindroms is weakness and feeling of irreal living, eiforia. Other things I don't know in english. But I will search for them. I can't concentrate on nothing. It's very evil for work, learnings etc.
I wasn't mastrubating about 1 month and feeled a little better. When I readed your post, I wanted to probe will be it repeating. And yes - tirednes come on again, but in much smaller quantity. Sorry, about my english.
And else. I have got a girlfriend, who wants more sex... You know, all 2 times, when we make love. I have fast orgasms and bad erection. I searched and readed a training for erection, which needs mastrubation terapy. But I am afraid about weakness and other simptoms. Maybe we can help one other in this VERY TERRIBLE problem. I think so.


I am wishing you to defeat this problem !!!! Because I know how hard is it! ))


 
Old 01-04-2005, 11:39 AM   #13
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[deleted] You know, I think that our problems can be from some kind of nervous system disfunction. Psihozys, neirozys, depression etc. I don't know what is true. And why is it. And how to fight with it.
I have fast orgasms.. But my lover don't - it's trouble too. I need to stimulate her to get orgasm for her. Sex and mastrubating is little bit different. For women at most..
And I can't get 2. erection to get next orgasm (I was getting at 3 - 8 orgasms at day !!).
Maybe you are smoking? Or maybe you have trouble with blood-vessels? But if you can mastrubate and all is ok, then you have some problems with nervous system. Bad beliefs or something like that. You understand russian language? I have good training system for that. But I am afraid to use It, because I don't want to mastrubate (the weakness is coming on ) )...

Best wishees...

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Old 01-04-2005, 02:28 PM   #14
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

Well, i have no problems masturbating, because when i stimulate the penis with my hand, it stays hard. I don't smoke or anything. They made me an X-ray of my back. The results show everything OK, except of something called "bifid spine" in my lower back (sacral). But the doctor told me there's nothing to worry, and he says a "bifid spine" is quite normal. Or maybe is our problem related to the tyroid or testosterone?

By the way, i'm not sure a training system will make anything to solve our problem...

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Old 01-06-2005, 05:02 PM   #15
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Re: 20 years old, im desesperated!help please! :(

HOly cow! that was a super specific reply up there, i think there's most likely an easier solution than having your blood vessels redone, lol.

Since you CAN get an erection, you know blood is able to reach the proper areas so that's a good start. Im a girl, so i have no personal experience of course but i can tell you a little bit of advice about my bf. He has erection problems from time to time, and asked his doc about them. He was concerned that a prior back injury had something to do with it, or weird headaches he was getting, other general problems. The doctor said that since he could achieve an erection at all the back injury was out, so were the headaches, etc.

Im no doctor, but i suspect your other problems may not be central to the problem. Alot of sexual dysfunction in men and women especially is mental. I can orgasm by masturbating by myself, but not with my boyfriend so far. it may be because I am comfortable by myself and more self conscious in front of him. do you get nervous with your girlfriend? it sounds like you arent very experienced sexually and maybe since you are starting out something like anxiety or a subconscious problem may be messing with your hard on.

some quick ideas, in case you haven't tried them! try lots of foreplay, ask to watch her touch herself, watch porn together (its hot!), have her use the same motions on you that you do on yourself and see if she can work some magic...and oh! i forgot a great suggestion that has helped my bf alot when hes losing his erection--"**** rings" or "penis rings". You can get them at sex shops or more discreetly online. they are really cheap too! we like the ones that are a stretchy jelly like material, and they come with little spikes and ticklers on the outside that will interest your gf too. they work wonders so give em a try! good luck and let us know what happens!

 
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