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Old 11-20-2004, 12:41 PM   #1
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Unhappy First time worries

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Old 11-20-2004, 02:58 PM   #2
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Re: First time worries

Although I'm not gay, But do have lots of gay friends and we tend to be pretty open with each other on sex topics like when my wife and I have problems. But I have never been approached with a question of this nature.
I can try to help, First of all I can almost garentee that if this guy has been with lots of guys 8x6 or bigger he must be a porn star because it is a proven fact that 60-80% of the worlds men are 6.5x5 so armed with this info I would say your in a good size bracket and this guy is just boasting and causing you unecessary discomfort. And would almost ganentee if you came to the realization of this knowledge that you would be more satisfied with your self and have less worries about penis size.

Thats my 2 cents
And if it comforts you more I'm 20 and my wife is 18 so I can honestly say I have recently been in your shoes somewhat.

 
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Old 11-20-2004, 04:33 PM   #3
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Re: First time worries

I agree, you are bang on average. So don't worry at all. Being average means there are heaps of guys the same size as you, some bigger and some a lot smaller. As for erections that is all to do with nerves at your age. As long as you are in a safe place where you can relax things shold be OK. If he is the active partner not getting one at first may not be a big problem anyway. Just be safe and use a condom.
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Old 11-22-2004, 07:02 AM   #4
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Re: First time worries

Have to agree with what the other guys said. I think your erection problems are just based on nerves, and also because now you're feeling intimidated and self-conscious and I doubt that's helping things any.

Your penis size is average --- actually probably a bit over average, depending on which survey on penis size you believe. I agree that if this guy says "most" of the people he's been with are bigger than 8x6 --- which is fairly huge --- then he's lying, or just a really bad judge of size, LOL. It would be highly unlikely that this guy would encounter a great many men larger than himself --- or even as large as himself --- unless he chooses his sex partners based solely on penis size. Since he has told you that it's you he likes and not your penis size, I think he's stretching the truth a bit. Or a lot.

Guys in general are pretty much obsessed with penis size, and I'd say gay men are probably even more so --- hey, there's two penisies to worry about... twice the fun but twice the issues, too. LOL. Maybe he thinks it makes him sound more like a stud if he puts it out there that he can attract and sleep with hung guys, who knows? But I do think it was really insensitive of him to say that to you --- that he's been with mostly larger guys --- my first thought was: what a jerk.

I know it's impossible, but try to stop thinking about it. He already said he likes you for you, and hell, that's 80% of the battle. Take it from a guy who has seen and had sex with a lot of penises before --- of every variety --- your penis is fine. And you'll be fine, too.
Have fun & play safe!

 
Old 11-26-2004, 12:44 PM   #5
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Re: First time worries

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Old 11-26-2004, 04:19 PM   #6
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Re: First time worries

if he thought you were too small, he wouldn't be bothered with you. the fact is, he's attracted, and interested in you. take him at his word, and believe him when he says it's not an issue. otherwise, you are just using it as a wedge between the two of you, to keep from getting closer. the way you are taking it to heart, he is probably worrying if he said something wrong, when you suddenly start thinking about it, and get down or withdrawn. if you want to make him happy, be happy with him, together.
and, like the others said, stay safe.

 
Old 11-26-2004, 04:48 PM   #7
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Re: First time worries

You shouldn't be sick with worry, you should be nervous with excitement and anticipation!
Yeah, I know, there are so many things men and women, gay or straight, can get stressed about but the size of your penis is something you can't do anything about, so it's a waste of energy. Try to focus on things you do have control over, like the kinds of things you might actually do with each other.
Anyway, from another angle, try to imagine yourself in the future, and you've started a relationship with someone who has a smaller penis that you. What would you think? How would you behave? I'm curious as to how you would feel if the shoe were on the other foot, but you don't have to post your answer, it's purely curiosity on my part.
Good luck.

 
Old 11-27-2004, 01:48 AM   #8
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Old 11-27-2004, 10:06 AM   #9
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Re: First time worries

If you feel in any way uncomfortable remember that you don't have to have sex. You're only 17 - don't be afraid to wait until the time is right. And it might not be right for a few more years. Take care and be safe.

 
Old 11-29-2004, 01:37 PM   #10
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