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Old 12-03-2004, 04:10 PM   #1
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important but not critical sexual issue

Hello all,

My problem is that I dont last very long during sex. I'm 22, very healthy (a little chubby) but otherwise healthy. But when I masturbate or have sex I can finish off in around 2 minutes. Anything past 5 or 6 minutes is me fighting not to ejaculate. and thats if i try thinking of something other than sex. if i focus on the sex, id be done in two or three "thrusts".

I was thinking that the reason MIGHT be that my penis is too sensitive and that I should consider circumcision. id prefer not to. but id prefer more to last longer in bed.

the health of my genitalia is fine. im going in for a vericocele (sp?) removal operation this month. other than that my genital health and hygene is optimal.

my experience might be a problem. ive only had one gf (for 5 years) and to me shes very sexy. just looking at her turns me on greatly. this mixed with my general problem of "shooting too soon" is too overwhelming for me to last any longer than 5 or 6 minutes in bed. sometimes a lot sooner. sometimes so soon that it ruins the night. to the point where i am now intimidated by the thought of having sex and only do when i "must". i have this reluctance to do it because i know itll just be bad for her and horrible for me.

due to some reading ive done, i perform kegel exercises once in a while. it helped make my erection harder but it didnt do anything for this problem.

im not a walking penis. so i dont really think of this problem as life altering. but it is something id like to seek help for. my primary concern is circumcision. if anyone has undergone a circumcision at around my age let me know how it went. to me, the act of making love and watching my loved one is what i enjoy most about sex. not the super sensitive feelings of my penis during sex.

sorry for the long post. im afraid that if i dont get some answers from someone other than my doctor, i might be hasty and go for a cut.

again, im not depressed or anything. just something id like to look after.

thanks!
Pantheon

 
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Old 12-03-2004, 09:12 PM   #2
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

Well im not a guy or anything....
but ill tell you what i think anyway...
it is known that uncut guys are a little more sensitve than cut guys. this is normal.
Anyway, when my bf and i started having sex, he too had a problem where he just couldnt last more than a few minutes in bed. to fix a problem such as this (only if both people are unhappy about it) it takes patience and cooperation between both partners. sex should be intimate and fun, so put it in your mindset that there is no hurry. if during sex you feel like you are going to ejaculate way before either of you want you to,.....try stalling. when you feel the orgasm coming on..just slow down a lot, or stop for a few seconds ...and then start going again. For me and my bf this served as a kind of a "training" for his penis...lol....(the only way i could put it!!), and now he can last as long as we want in bed. Try to use your mental power rather than your physical power to last longer.
Like i said, im not a guy so i dont completely understand your problem, there may be other solutions to it depending on what is causing the problem. I hope my advice has been somewhat helpful. Take care!
~SARA

 
Old 12-03-2004, 09:48 PM   #3
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

Don't get cut. I dunno but i get turned on by the fact that my bf is not. How about delay condoms? They work for us.

 
Old 12-03-2004, 11:39 PM   #4
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

The best delay method I've found is to get close a few times, stop, wait until your erection is close to going away, then begin again. After about 2 or 3 times, the last time I can go as long as I want, basically. Until I go really fast or something I'm fine and can control it completely. Otherwise I'd easily make 1 or 2 minutes solo, if I didn't slow it at all, but I tried it (just an exercise) and got to around 45 minutes the other day. Maybe rather than being cut right away you should attempt some delay methods or condoms first and see how it goes. After all, if you change your mind you can't go back.

 
Old 12-04-2004, 03:37 AM   #5
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

for me its very mental. if i think about something else when im having sex i can last a little. but the moment i look at my gf (or internet porn. lol) im ready to go. but my concern is that I dont want to think about something else during sex. its not fair for she or I.

ive tried some delaying exercises and they helped to extend my duration about 10%. it is still a problem in my eyes. i know i cant expect to be a hydraulic pump in the sack, but definately not a loose cannon.

anyone who got cut in their early adulthood to give me advice?

btw thx so much to all

 
Old 12-05-2004, 06:42 PM   #6
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

I'm a girl (and so fairly obviously uncut), but when you're trying the excercised to last longer are you and your girlfriend giving things enough time to "settle" before slooowly starting up again?

 
Old 12-08-2004, 05:39 PM   #7
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

thank you.

cut person plz help!

 
Old 12-08-2004, 06:15 PM   #8
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

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Originally Posted by pantheon
thank you.

cut person plz help!
Hi , being cut /uncut..won't solve your quick ejaculation problem!
so unless your Dr recommends it don't do it....this is just something your going to have to try to learn yourself....theres different methods you can try you just have to find the one that helps you!!!
Here is what I recommend....masterbate about an hour before you have intercorse....use a tight fitting condom/or enhaceing ring but (not to tight) place at the base of the penis........maybe some of these things will work for you?? also give more forplay to your g/f..and a little less for you if thats at all possible remember the more sexually aroused you are the faster you will ejacualate!

Be carefull useing them so called numing creams...I can't say they work? I don't know??..some poster say they do? but just becareful what you put on your penis!!

Doing the stop and start method just really makes the love making go out the window..duh... .... who can hold it after about 2 or 3 tries of stoping ejaculation/it feels to good so you just explode...I can relate to that!!...so to me obvioulsy thats not a good idea..(the stop/start method)

After you ejaculate...just keep on pleasing your g/f...finger/oral/or use a toy...keep this up until she has her orgasm....or until you can achive another errection...usally about 10 15 min.
hope this helps you out...Good Luck!

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Old 12-09-2004, 01:51 PM   #9
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

is it normal for a man to continue after he has ejaculated? i mean (i know its different for every1 but) how long does it take to get a second erection and do most men just quit after the first?

i thought that getting circumcised would help. wouldnt it deaden the nerve endings on the head and ridge (of the head) of the penis which are the most sensitive areas?

thx for the help.

 
Old 02-21-2005, 01:00 AM   #10
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

Try masterbating before you have sex. Twice, if necessary!

 
Old 02-21-2005, 12:39 PM   #11
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

i'm also curious about continuing after a guy has ejaculated. Do most guys immediately get soft after? Or do many remain hard and are able to keep going even though they've just come? I do'nt think a girl would have anything to say if a guy could just keep going even though he's just ejaculated...

My bf ejaculates rather quickly and easily, no matter what we're doing sexually. But it doesn't really bother me because he remains hard and can keep going for however long we want to. But of course, it takes him progressively longer each time, and there's a lot less in um, volume so to speak.

 
Old 02-21-2005, 10:57 PM   #12
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

I think circumcision mainly just makes it more difficult to masturbate without sme sort of lubrication. As a girl, I would not suggest getting this done--all the uncut guys I've known have loved being that way and seem to experience more pleasure from stimulation than cut guys. I think being uncut is sexy and it gives me a lot more ways to play with and please my guy. As for your concern about premature ejaculation, are you sure that your partner is unsatisfied with the length of your sex sessions? Personally, I wouldn't want to have sex for more than five minutes at a time. I usually have several orgasms very quickly and after 2-3 minutes of intercourse, I've had about all the pleasure I could take. My guy doesn't last all that long, so we're very compatible in that regard. But some women take more than a minute or so to have an orgasm, and therefore would be more happy with a man with whom orgasm lasted a lot longer than 5 minnutes. My point is, make sure that your girlfriend would actually want you to try and last longer before you consider it a problem and work on changing it--I definitely wouldn't want my guy to take longer. Things are great the way they are, and it's quite possible that your GF feels the same way. There's nothing inherently better about taking a long time to have an orgasm; it's just important that both partners are satisfied sexually. Try to keep the lines of communication open with your partner so you can both understand what pleases each other and do your best, even if you have to compromise, to make sure you are both happy. Good luck !

 
Old 03-02-2005, 07:51 AM   #13
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Re: important but not critical sexual issue

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Originally Posted by pantheon
is it normal for a man to continue after he has ejaculated? i mean (i know its different for every1 but) how long does it take to get a second erection and do most men just quit after the first?

i thought that getting circumcised would help. wouldnt it deaden the nerve endings on the head and ridge (of the head) of the penis which are the most sensitive areas?

thx for the help.
I'm cut and my head is very sensitive. I am also suffering from pe. I sure wish I could control it : (

 
Old 03-02-2005, 07:52 AM   #14
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i'm also curious about continuing after a guy has ejaculated. Do most guys immediately get soft after? Or do many remain hard and are able to keep going even though they've just come? I do'nt think a girl would have anything to say if a guy could just keep going even though he's just ejaculated...

My bf ejaculates rather quickly and easily, no matter what we're doing sexually. But it doesn't really bother me because he remains hard and can keep going for however long we want to. But of course, it takes him progressively longer each time, and there's a lot less in um, volume so to speak.
This is not the norm and you are very lucky to have such a man

 
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