Hey Sabro77,
Every woman and man are different and have different sexual desires. How ever it sounds to me that you are obsessed with it. Alot of men get addicted to masterbation. If you have sex every other day and masterbate a minimum of every day 2-3 times then it is an obession. Don't take it the wrong way, it is not harmful and doesnt hurt anyone, just wanting to point that out. My question to you is. A mans sperm fluid does not fill up quick enough to accomendate your needs, doesnt it hurt to have those dry orgasms? And also if you wait a day or two between orgasms your orgasms will be much stronger. Why not save it for your girlfriend and be a little on the "edge" and sex starved when you are with her? Yes women do get a little bent out of shape when they hear this because they want to be the ones satisfying you, not your hand, now she has to compete with your hand. It is just like if a woman only uses her toys every day, wouldnt you feel like you weren't man enough to satisfy her? Think about it
Hey Sabro77,
Every woman and man are different and have different sexual desires. How ever it sounds to me that you are obsessed with it. Alot of men get addicted to masterbation. If you have sex every other day and masterbate a minimum of every day 2-3 times then it is an obession. Don't take it the wrong way, it is not harmful and doesnt hurt anyone, just wanting to point that out. My question to you is. A mans sperm fluid does not fill up quick enough to accomendate your needs, doesnt it hurt to have those dry orgasms? And also if you wait a day or two between orgasms your orgasms will be much stronger. Why not save it for your girlfriend and be a little on the "edge" and sex starved when you are with her? Yes women do get a little bent out of shape when they hear this because they want to be the ones satisfying you, not your hand, now she has to compete with your hand. It is just like if a woman only uses her toys every day, wouldnt you feel like you weren't man enough to satisfy her? Think about it
"A mans sperm fluid does not fill up quick enough to accomendate your needs, doesnt it hurt to have those dry orgasms?"
where did u get that from, thats LUDACRIS !!! thats totally wrong lol.
Hey Sabro77,
Every woman and man are different and have different sexual desires. How ever it sounds to me that you are obsessed with it. Alot of men get addicted to masterbation. If you have sex every other day and masterbate a minimum of every day 2-3 times then it is an obession. Don't take it the wrong way, it is not harmful and doesnt hurt anyone, just wanting to point that out. My question to you is. A mans sperm fluid does not fill up quick enough to accomendate your needs, doesnt it hurt to have those dry orgasms? And also if you wait a day or two between orgasms your orgasms will be much stronger. Why not save it for your girlfriend and be a little on the "edge" and sex starved when you are with her? Yes women do get a little bent out of shape when they hear this because they want to be the ones satisfying you, not your hand, now she has to compete with your hand. It is just like if a woman only uses her toys every day, wouldnt you feel like you weren't man enough to satisfy her? Think about it
Thanks for your comments, but I have to agree with ProdeeK. I don't know if you read all of my previous posts, but I'm able to ejaculate quite a volume every time I orgasm. I've never had a "dry orgasm" in my life. I agree that if I wait a day or two, my ejaculations are stronger, but not the orgasms. But like I said, it's not the ejaculate that is the problem, which is always strong with lots of volume and projection.
Also, my gf is not in competition with my hand -- I WANT to have more sex with her. If we were having sex twice a day, then I'm sure I wouldn't masturbate. But we're not, so it's not like she's wanting more and not getting it. I don't think I need to be any more on "edge" or "sex starved" when we get together...I never have trouble with performance, i.e. stamina and climax, and I'm always ready to have sex.
And in response to your last comment, ("It is just like if a woman only uses her toys every day, wouldnt you feel like you weren't man enough to satisfy her? Think about it "), I'm not "only" masturbating. My gf and I have sex a few times a week. But if I were the one who didn't want to have sex, and SHE were the one not having her needs met, then of course she could use toys when we were apart. I love her and don't want her to need for anything. Plus, I find it very sexy to think of her masturbating.
Personally, when I am in a realtionship I still like to masturbate but with them! This is something I have openly expressed to my partners and it has never been a problem. I love it. It works out great later in the session if she is not quite in the mood or if it's that time of the month. I love masturbating in front of my gf and I sometimes prefer that to actual intercourse. It just excites me. I also like it when a gf tells me that she uses her vibrator and I encourage it. By all means. I never take it personal. Let her have her fantasies. Just like you.
Your problem here may be more communication with your partner than anything. Why did this even come up? I don't think she has a say here. If the reason you MB on your own is not because of her then that is all you have to say not that you need to say anything. You don't have to change for her as long as it is not causing a problem.
Anyway, keep an open mind to doing it with her. Who knows. Maybe that will stop you from doing it on your own OR make her understand it a little more. Try laying next to her and stimulating her with your hand while you do your thing. OR you do your thing and she does hers together. It may make you understand yourselves and each other more = getting closer
I have no idea why your GF is upset. I'm in a very serious, wonderful relationship with my guy, and we both still masturbate frequently and openly. [delted] I particularly like being involved when he masturbates because then I know he's thinking about me, though he says that he's always thinking about me while masturbating.
I should say that he's not all that into porn and always masturbates without it. I believe him because not only does he have no reason to lie (I wouldn't be mad), but we've been together for years and I've never seen any porn anywhere in our house or computer. The only reason I can see for a woman to object to her guy masturbating would be if he's more interested in doing that using porn than being with her, but that doesn't seem to be the case here at all. Maybe your GF just feels inadequate and left out, thinking that she's not enough for you. You need to find a way to explain that you're completely happy with your sex life, but you still like to frequently get a quick release from masturbating. It doesn't have anything to do with being less than fulfilled by her.
Honestly, to me it's incredibly silly, selfish, and insecure for a woman to be threatened by her guy masturbating--why would you want to deny your man such a harmless, enjoyable activity? For both sexes, the more you orgasm, the more you'll want sex and the more you'll love sex, so both people in a relationship win when one person masturbates. As a woman, I wouldn't want to be involved with someone who would begrudge me this simple pleasure or make me feel like I had to hide it from him, and I'm sure the majority of men agree. So in response to the original question of this thread, I don't think there's such a thing as too much masturbation unless it gets in the way of pleasing your partner or other responsibilities. Otherwise, Sabo, there is nothing at all wrong with what you're doing--it's definitely your girlfriend's problem, which unfortunately is a sign of hangups that could undermine your long-term sexual compatibility. I hope that doesn't happen and that you are able to get her to be more open-minded rather than insecure and needlessly threatened. I agree with RBT 100%--maybe if you can get her involved, she will see that you are completely devoted to her and satisfied by her. I hope it all works out for the best .
Last edited by Mod-S4; 01-25-2005 at 08:20 AM.
Reason: TMI
Enjoy it while you can. I'am curious why do you feel so compelled to tell her? Do you tell her everytime you have other bodyily functions It always great to be open in relationship but somethings are better left alone if she was raised like society dictates that masturbation isn't normal than tell her do do some research. And Get educated. Sounds like you have allot of time on your hands. No pun intended
