Re: 22 and pretty concerned, please help
When I was a younger lad (shortly after the invention of the steam engine, I believe this was), I had noticed an annoying pattern in my sexual encounters. The first time I would try to make love to a girl, one that I actually liked and whose company I had sought out, I usually failed. On those occasions when I was able to rise from the ashes of defeat and continue the relationship, I would rise in all relevant contexts. Once this happened a few times, it was in danger of becoming a hard-wired self-fulfilling prophecy. One night, finding myself moving inexorably toward the same situation, I took a wild shot and said something on the order of "Look, here's the deal. I don't know exactly why this happens, but..." Turns out I wasn't mistaken in my initial instincts regarding her; she was cool, and guess what--that broke the spell. At least that night.
Most times where sex is concerned, your brain is not necessarily your friend. It's easy to think your way to frustration
If they get you asking
the wrong questions,
they don't have to worry
about the answers