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Old 12-27-2004, 12:52 PM   #1
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Husband rather pull out?

I have been on birth control pills for 5 months now. My husband said that I should not use them and he would just pull out when it happens. When we were dating he was the one who told me to go on bc pill so he could ejaculate inside of me. Now that I am on it he said its really no big deal to pull out. I thought thats what turns men on when they can ejaculate inside.

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Old 12-27-2004, 04:31 PM   #2
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Re: Husband rather pull out?

If you are concerned with pregnancy, withdrawal is NOT a reliable control procedure. Sperm can be present in semen at times other than ejaculation and memory to withdraw at proper time is not infallible.

 
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Old 12-27-2004, 04:38 PM   #3
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Agreed.

There can be sperm in the precum released during sex, and pulling out is difficult to do when the feeling (and our instinct) says "stay inside".

 
Old 12-27-2004, 05:22 PM   #4
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Re: Husband rather pull out?

What is the reason for him not wanting you to take bc pills? Is it possible he'd like to become a father soon?

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Old 12-27-2004, 06:04 PM   #5
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Thisby brings up a good point!
Gee I wish I had you guys problem.....anyway to answer your question bout the man finishing inside...I.M.O.... I love it!! nothing feels any better/I can't speak for all the men but I would bet 98% of them would agree with me.

 
Old 12-27-2004, 08:27 PM   #6
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i agree with Thisby. i think he might be trying to say he's ready to be a father.

maybe you two should sit down and have a discussion about the possibility.

 
Old 12-28-2004, 04:09 AM   #7
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Re: Husband rather pull out?

He does not want to be a father at all right now. Our finances are not good at all. We are married 7 yrs and he wants to hold off another 2 to 4 yrs before trying to have kids. I am 31, he is 36. We only have sex once a month if that and it doesn't bother him at all.

 
Old 12-28-2004, 05:12 AM   #8
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Re: Husband rather pull out?

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I have been on birth control pills for 5 months now. My husband said that I should not use them and he would just pull out when it happens. When we were dating he was the one who told me to go on bc pill so he could ejaculate inside of me. Now that I am on it he said its really no big deal to pull out. I thought thats what turns men on when they can ejaculate inside.
Sometimes, the Bird and the Bees story never makes it completely across to everyone, but I would think the average 36 year old should know better about his reproduction capability. Pulling out offers no guarantee in preventing pregnancy.

What is his problem (or yours) with you staying on B/C. If he wanted to become a daddy, pulling out would be the last thing he would want to do. That reasoning would be puzzling.

 
Old 12-28-2004, 02:51 PM   #9
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We have been using the pull out method for 14 years and so far no accidents at all. I wanted to go on it because my friend has been using the pull out method for 8 yrs and no accidents but then she became pregnant by accident 6 months ago and that freaked me out so thats why I went on the pill.

 
Old 12-29-2004, 07:02 PM   #10
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I could be wrong ... but don't birth-control pills generally ... have side-affects ?? Your husband told you to stay away from pills probably because he's concerned with the pills' side-affects, because he loves you & cares about you deeply.

 
Old 12-30-2004, 04:44 AM   #11
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Lol..

The pill has hardly any side effects. It can infact - calm down your periods and also has been known to increase breast size while on it. (very true , first hand experience)

 
Old 01-01-2005, 01:31 AM   #12
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Give me a break! The pill has many side effects! I've experienced them first hand. One being the worst is possible blood clots! What else......no sex drive, acne,depression and moodiness. Do your research before you start saying things you don't know. The pill isn't safe at all, there is so much information out there I wish I had known years ago.

 
Old 01-02-2005, 10:10 AM   #13
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I had plenty of side effects from BC pills! I've used withdrawl for about 6 years now, but there's always the possiblity of mistakes.

 
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