im a chick, and i can answer this for u. a plus-size woman has more to offer a man, (if they like heavy-set women). 1) u women have meat on ur body (especially where men like to roam, ie the chest and back-side), which makes u bigger and better, softer, and more comfortable. i will admit, im skinny and my bony butt dont have much to offer. hehe. u can actually feel my bones in some areas. come on, how comfortable can that be??? my sis says thats gross. whatever. but even my bf has told me he likes women with meat on their bodys. and u know guys, they just wanna lay all over us, like if we're pillows or something. hehe. well u shouldnt feel self-conscious, if it will make u feel any better, y dont u ask ur bf what he finds attractive abt u. it couldnt hurt to see his point of view, and get a little flattering on top of it.