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Old 01-02-2005, 10:25 PM   #1
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Masturbating with your partner

Happy New Year everyone!

I am the type of GUY who tends to take a while getting comfortable sexually when I am with a new partner. Right now things are going very well with a new GF. I find it helps to get more comfortable with communication and understanding. I like to masturbate when I am with a GF. Not only do I find it erotic but it also helps to relax me and get more comfortable with her. Kinf od like bringing myself to ejaculation in front of her makes me more comfortable.

I have had problems getting erections in the past and find that openess and masturbation in front of my partner helps a lot! Although, I am not sure the girl I am with now is that accepting of it but why should I change? I am who I am and how I am but bery respectful of her feelings.

Thanks to all who respond.

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Old 01-03-2005, 04:10 AM   #2
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Re: Madturbating with your partner

That's great bud, glad you posted it! I've often suggested to guys that they add this, especially when erection problems and nerves are causing frustration over sexual things. Being comfortable around each other is so important to a fulfilling sex life!

 
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Old 01-03-2005, 04:38 AM   #3
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I think most people are turned on by watching it, but some have a hard time feeling comfortable enough to do it in front of someone else.Depending how a person grew up; masturbation is for the most part hidden thing, and some people are shamed by their parents or religious ideas into thinking it is bad or evil.

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Old 01-03-2005, 06:19 AM   #4
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Re: Madturbating with your partner

Masturbating with or in front of a partner is great. It should be a part of everyone's foreplay. First of all many people find it quite a turn-on to watch their partner pleasure themselves. Masturbating each other is a normal prelude to oral sex and/or intercourse.


Many people enjoy mutual masturbation as an alternative to intercourse. It provides sexual release for both partners and it also provides insight for each other in what manipulation of the penis or clitoris the other finds enjoyable.

 
Old 01-03-2005, 02:41 PM   #5
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Re: Masturbating with your partner

From a female point of view, I have always enjoyed watching a man masturbate, it's almost like seeing a very very private act that is normally hidden or done alone. So it definately is a sign of being very comfortable with your partner.
My only concern is that an ex of mine had erection problems and initally we would spend our time just masturbating mutually. At first it was fun, talking about out fantasies etc. However, this soon turned into all we did! He was so comfortable and started to enjoy masturbating more than sex, afterall, all he had to do was please himself and so a partner couldn't possibly be let down or upset therefore he was more comfortable. Sadly it did eventually make me feel like I was just there to watch, perhaps help and fuel his fantasies.
If masturbation is part of sex and/or foreplay and not your sex life in total then it's great! Otherwise, you need to be careful that it's not replacing skin to skin etc.
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Old 01-03-2005, 03:43 PM   #6
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Re: Masturbating with your partner

No. I only mean as foreplay. Sometimes going to the max but just as an onset to intercourse. When it gets up I want to go in

This is something that I opened myself up to the last 2 GFs I had and to my surprise they were very open to it. Things worked out pretty well. With the GF I have now, she does not seem to be so open minded to it but I also do not sense that she is deathly against it. I am working on ways to get her more relaxed and comfortable with the idea at least for my needs. We have had a couple of encounters that went fair but not great. Takes a while to get hard, gets hard goes down, that sort of stuff. I care about her deeply.

Like I said, I have erectile problems which I think are caused by worry and the more I like a woman the longer I seem to have them and/or the more likely it seems to occur. I have tried everything from not masturbating for days on end to not looking at porn anymore. I do take Viagra which helps most of the time but not always. I hate the way that stuff makes me feel. I seem to have to take a lot more of it than other people claim. It also gives me gas which is not good in that moment. While Viagra has made sex a possibility in the past I do not want to take it forever. I also feel like I am taking the Viagra to increase my drive more than I am for a little extra assitance in getting an erection. It could be I get so worried about it that it is ruining my libido and that may be the real issue. I am 33 years old and active.

So I am really working hard this time (with consuling) to see what I can find out about all of this. The openess of masturbation seems to help a lot.

 
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