I have been with these boards for so long, but this is my 1st post under a new name, so my husband will not see this.
We have been married for over 10 years and he does not want sex any more and I am so confused. When we did try to have sex the last 2 times he could not finish. I am very highly sexed and am at my wits end.
Well I decided to go to online adult chat and I have been having an online affair. We have swapped pics, so we know what each other looks like both clothed and naked and talked to each other via email and instant messenger. Well now we are currently having phone sex. I love the way he talks to me and makes me feel. I feel like I am wanted again, but he also has a spouse. We were trying to keep it simple, but now emotions are forming.
I am a very cute energetic girl with a decent body who is very caring so I don't know why my husband will not open up to me. I have tried to talk to him over and over, but he does not listen, so I guess that is why I started this online relationship in the 1st place. Now my heart is confused.
I think you should stop doing this online affair because I am sure it will lead to real life affair if this contiune. What happen to "For better and For Worse" vow? It's not your husband's fault that he doesn't have high sex drive like you do. It happen. How would you feel if your husband had high sex drive and was doing online affair that may lead to real life affiar just because you have low sex drive? Love is not always about sex and you should realize that. I'm sure he does feel bad that he doesn't have high sex drive to please you all the time. So if you truly love him, then stop doing what is it you're doing now and support him.
Another thing is....maybe his hormones is low and he should get it checked out.
I completely understand what both of your reactions are all about. I know that we need counseling, but he is unwilling. And it is not just about sex. We don't conversate very much at all, there is just no love there anymore. I do not think that he is cheating. I don't know what it is. He spends sooooo much time playing games on the computer. I even told him that I posted my naughty pics and that I posted my video, he just thought I was crazy, but was fine with it. Then ther is the fact that I want my 1st bisexual experience. He used to be willing, but now.............who knows. I feel like that stupid game is his sexual outlet.
Not to brag, but if you have a good looking wife who is very open to anything sexually and I am also a "squirter", I know that I am alot of men's fantasy. I feel like I just want to scream!
If he would open up and talk to me! I used to cry myself to sleep, but now with this affair I am sneaking around at night. I feel horrible, but he is giving me what is missing.........................
Last edited by imalittlecutie; 04-09-2005 at 01:08 AM.
Now that you explained much better about your situation. Now I can understand you doing this online affair. Your husband absolutely refused to do any counseling, no love, no affection, nothing. HE was fine with you posting naughty pics and videos? Clearly this is insane and all he care about is gaming?? I don't know but honestly now that you explained all of this, I can't really blame you if you do decide to have real life affair but it is still not recommend.
Regardless, there is never a reason to cheat. I say if you are unhappy then get divorced. No need in sneaking around and having affairs. It only hurts people in the process.
Clearly this is insane and all he care about is gaming?? I don't know but honestly now that you explained all of this, I can't really blame you if you do decide to have real life affair but it is still not recommend.
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