Hi everyone, I'm hoping to get a couple of answers about some things with are bothering me..
I think I have an erection problem, but I'm not sure if it's physical or psychological. I'm not in a position to see a doctor about it, because of personal reasons, so maybe I can get some help here
It started about 3 years ago, when I was having some fun with a girl, and no matter what I tried, I couldn't get an erection.. At first I wasn't too bothered by it, because i didn't fancy her at all, and the way the situtation was initiated wasn't sexy in the slightest, so I just put it down to me not being interested. I was put off by her saying she did not like performing oral sex, and wouldn't do it under any circumstances. (ps. It's hard to explain these circumstances without being a little crude, but I'll do my best not to be)
Anyway, due to work, and not going out much I haven't met many other women since, and this is where my problem started.. Mostly due to boredom, I masturbate a lot. Sometimes up to 8 times in a day, and I noticed that during these stages, my sensitivity to pornographic material slowly decreased, so I'd needed harder and harder stuff to arouse me.. If my attention was taken away, my erection would subside almost immediately. I cannot seem to maintain an erection unless I am actively masturbating. I never get spontaneous erections anymore, either.
This is where it gets weird.. If something turns me on, I will get an erection, and as long as I'm aroused, the erection will stay. Part of me thinks it's psychological, and I'm just de-sensitized. But, on the other hand, I no longer wake with an erection. Often, I'll wake during the night, and I'll have an erection, but never when I actually get out of bed to start the day... Is that normal? Should I be worrying that I don't have one when I actually get out of bed, or should I just put it down to the fact that I'm not having to set an alarm and actually interrupt my sleeping pattern which would increase the chances of waking with a nocturnal erection?
I recently had a testosterone test, and it came back normal-high, so I know that's not the problem.. I'm very worried it's physical, but that fact that I can acheive an erection long enough to masturbate for 30+ minutes leads me to think it might be psychological.. I've just met a girl, and I'm very worried about what's going to happen..
Am I worrying too much? This has been going on so long, I can't actually remember if it's normal to be able to maintain an erection for a long time without stimulation.
I'm 26 years old, by the way
Any help or advice on this subject would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a lot