ScruffyGuy

You're stuck in an endless vicious circle, Gustav -- you will need to take appropriate action to end this.

This means you need to work on the mental aspect of your problem since the physical part, your penis, is unlikely to change all that much.

But for the record, a five-inch penis isn't all that small -- and testicles also come in a wide variety of size, shape and color!

You are fearing the UNKNOWN more than anything else. You haven't had sex, you haven't allowed a lady to see your penis -- you haven't done anything, really. You cannot live in fear of the ANTICIPATION of an IMAGINED response. Yet that is exactly what you are doing!

What good comes from that?

Well, for one thing, you can avoid taking a risk by remaining afraid. The more you keep doing this, the more comfortable you feel. You are "protected" by your own fears and you allow yourself an easy excuse for your miserable sex life. Though it is frustrating, both physically and mentally, it is also EASIER to continue on in this manner because you don't have to DO anything except be afraid.

So you've balanced out your options here and decided to stick with fear and inaction.

But you aren't happy with this choice anymore -- so now's the time to start learning how to put these fears aside, don't you think?

For the phimosis, you can follow the previous advice you learned here. As long as you do it slowly and carefully, the stretching shouldn't be a problem and if you start to see results this may build your confidence level -- so it's worth a try. But if you find your condition is resistant to "at home" methods, do see a doc and get various opinions about what to do. But I'd say this is probably the least of your problems right now, though TAKING ACTION to remedy the situation is a great first step that can lead to more and more actions taken to gain your self-confidence that is lacking.

Have you ever tried out wearing an erection ring? Give it a shot -- you may find that you like how your penis looks and feels when sporting one of these. You may get a little extra girth that will look more impressive to you.

Now, an erection ring is not a solution to a size issue (though as I said, in all honesty, you are NOT that small). But the idea here with the erection ring is to learn how to APPRECIATE your penis. If you like how it looks when adorned with the ring -- maybe you'll start to learn how to like it more ALL the time.

And that's really the key here: learning how to appreciate what you've got and who you are instead of worrying that you are "less" than other men.

Some folks feel "less" than other people for a myriad of reasons. Some folks do not have a great public speaking ability and may envy those who do. Some folks may wish they had "better" hair or blue eyes instead of brown. Worrying about your penis is very similar to those types of issues -- but in the case of your penis, you don't have to have anyone see it but those you WANT to see it, right? So already you can consider yourself one step ahead of the game, if you want to use a "glass half full" approach.

Most ladies are not going to immediately ask to see your penis when you invite them out on a date -- at least I hope not! Most ladies are also going to be MUCH more interested in WHO you are than what you've got in your pants.

When people start to care for each other and love each other, they often find that they also love and care for the physical aspects of the other person, too. In other words, the emotions and feelings of appreciating another person can translate over to an appreciation and respect for various body parts!

Many guys have fallen in love with women who have smaller breasts. Maybe for many years these guys have admired larger breasts on other ladies -- but then, they meet a gal whom they adore -- and they find that her smaller breasts are much more beautiful than they imagined. They love those breasts and they love the lady who owns them.

You will find the same applies to your penis.

If you are indeed five inches, you are JUST under "average" size. Now, you can go about trying all the various methods of penile enlargement that are out there and if you're lucky you might gain a fraction of an inch -- but this is probably a rotten idea because it trains you that you are not good enough as you are. If I were you, I would focus my attention on what I have instead.

You need to learn to love yourself. You need to learn that pleasing a partner is not all about penis size. You need to understand that women are not going to dismiss you out of hand because you've taken off your pants.

Try working on your self-confidence. Get some counseling if you think this will help. Most importantly, I think you need to just realize that you are essentially making a mountain out of a molehill (pun intended).

While this is important to YOU, it is probably FAR less important to others. And if you realize the truth in that -- it will become far less important to you, too.

Good luck.