I've been reading this board for a few weeks and I've noticed that when someone posts a thread about something different that others label that person as gay.
I don't think that is true. It might be in some circumstances, however I think that more and more men are discovering their fem side and wanting to explore it further.
I am a married hetrosexual. I have a fantastic sexual relationship with my wife. But every now and then we do like to spice it up a little bit. I do crossdress everyonce-in-a-while. My wife finds it highly erotic and so do I. And, I do keep my body completely free of all unwanted body hair, i.e. underarms, chest, arms, legs and pubic hair. There is nothing wrong by doing this. I never would have thought that I would enjoy dressing as a woman. But, my wife and I was looking at some porn a couple of years ago and we stumbled onto a shemale / crossdressing website and we both found that the way these people looked was very sexy to the both of us.
We tried it on me, although we didn't have the right items, but it was fun. So over the next couple of months, we obtained everything that I would need to transform myself into a woman, including realistic foam breast forms but except a vagina, for a few hours. We both still think that dressing up as a woman while still having my penis and scrotum into our love making is highly sensual. I have discovered that while being dressed as a woman, has really made sex more enjoyable and enlightning.
My wife discovered that she is bi-sexual and by dressing me up, she has the opportunity to be with another "woman", without going outside of our marriage.
I have never been with another crossdresser and I don't want to. What I have with my wife is perfect. Now this is a only once-in-a-while thing, and for the most part we have sex as a man and woman should.
Wow...where do I start? For those of you who don't know anything about crossdressing, here is a short lesson. A crossdresser is someone that enjoys wearing the clothing of the opposite sex. That's it. Most crossdressers are not gay and most are happily married. Most "dress" in private. I guess the best thing to say is you are a very lucky guy to have such an understanding wife that will participate with your crossdressing. I guess one reason I am in this health room is I am depressed and crossdressing is about the only thing that seems to comfort me. I've told several people over the past few years that I was a crossdresser hoping they'd accept me and it all turned out really bad because I've not had one person yet that I have told that has accepted me for who I am. They all think I am gay and nothing could be further from the truth. It's a very lonesome thing being a crossdresser. I wish I had never ever told anybody! I am so depressed becuase of my family that has tuned me out. Friends don't seem to care about me either. Oh well, life goes on.....guess I'll hang in there and find someone who understands one day. Again...you are a lucky guy.
Some people are just naturally hairy. I guess its that persons decision to shave their body. If they don't like the hair, then its their choice to shave it. Some people "label" people for what they do. I'm 25 and I have no body hair whatsoever. I don't shave it, its just natural. I guess its in my genetics. My 17 year old brother is the same way. I still look like I'm 16, and I was even pulled over by a truancy officer in my area, thinking I was skipping school. People got to stop judging each other.
I am sorry that you're isn't understanding of your lifestyle. I understand that can be tough, but maybe that's part of why you enjoy it. Perhaps you take pleasure in the fact that it's so taboo and forbidden.
I am trying to imagine my husband in women's clothing and it's really hard. It's just so not his personality and it's not what I am into sexually. I remember an old boyfriend of mine hide his penis between his legs as a joke and I told him that he came very close to never getting laid again.
I believe people have a hard time with the imagery. It probably causes their brain to short circuit and they can't process the information. I also believe that people make a lot of assumptions. When you confessed to your friends about being a crossdresser, their minds raced with other possibile secrets you may have. They might wonder why you're telling them this, they might even worry that you're coming on to them.
You have them thinking about you. You have them thinking about sex. You have them thinking about you and sex and a hailstorm of other things and it's just too much for the to deal with.
Have you sat down with your wife and tried discussing it? Did you tell her about crossdressing or did you just surpise her one day by showing up in high heels and a pretty, pleated skirt? Maybe if you slowly work up to it, allow her to get used to the idea, she'll be more open to it.
Unfortunately, it is more likely she is questioning your masculinity and sexuality and these things really need to be addressed.