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Old 07-18-2005, 04:55 AM   #1
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Sexual worries

I'm a 24 year old male, and I don't know exactly how to handle my situation. I don't even know if my situation is that alarming.

Maybe it might help to make note that from the age of 6 to 17 I masturbated by humping things (climbing them and yes, humping) it made for hilarious jokes but I wonder if it in the long term hurt my sexual performance.

It's hard to keep an erection, and I had erectile issues with my first and only sex partner(at the age of 21). I couldn't keep it up because I wonder if it was cause I didn't feel anything through the condom. My worries though are that I have very little sexual interest. My fiance I have now (We've been together for 2 years) is all about waiting til marriage to have sex, so that is what we agreed on. So in the scheme of things it does buy me time.. I don't want the same erectile issues to happen with her(Especially on a honeymoon!). And I just wish I was more interested in sex. I am completely attracted to her, she is incredibly sexy. But where is my interest at? Why don't I desire to have sex for hours?

Last night when we were together, I was aroused and my penis was semi hard to hard for a few minutes at a time, and yes I think precum or whatever that junk is came out.. After I got home, my balls were sore from the precum coming out. I fear my semen production is very low to the point where I can only ejaculate once every couple days or else my balls will get sore.

When I was 17 and first started masturbating correctly, I could go a few timse every day before this feeling would happen.. but now I can only spare once every couple days, and the interest is hardly there. Do you know how much I would give to be able to have this huge desire to have sex with my fiance? Noone in the world attracts me like she does..but it's so frustrating that if she ever was like "Okay no sex for a week"..I would be like "..ok whatever"..

I'm thinking it's low ejaculate production. Could that be it? If I don't make enough ejaculate I don't have anything to masturbate with and when I do, it takes a long time to recover, days even sometimes. (Althoughw hen I do ejaculate it's normal amounts.. but if I did it the day before, chances are my balls would be sore like I was just scraping the bottom for any ejaculate).

I don't know, hopefully someone can steer me in the right direction..thanks for reading!

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Old 07-18-2005, 06:19 PM   #2
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Re: Sexual worries

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Last night when we were together, I was aroused and my penis was semi hard to hard for a few minutes at a time, and yes I think precum or whatever that junk is came out.. After I got home, my balls were sore from the precum coming out.
This is called "blue balls" and it happens when some guys receive lots of stimulation but don't ejaculate. The tissue in your testicles swells and pushes on the nerves there. This is very normal and just means maybe you should excuse yourself and masturbate in the bathroom to get relief.

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Maybe it might help to make note that from the age of 6 to 17 I masturbated by humping things (climbing them and yes, humping) it made for hilarious jokes but I wonder if it in the long term hurt my sexual performance.
No you haven't hurt anything, masturbation is normal and it's not uncommon for guys to stimulate themselves by humping things.

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It's hard to keep an erection, and I had erectile issues with my first and only sex partner(at the age of 21). I couldn't keep it up because I wonder if it was cause I didn't feel anything through the condom. My worries though are that I have very little sexual interest. My fiance I have now (We've been together for 2 years) is all about waiting til marriage to have sex, so that is what we agreed on. So in the scheme of things it does buy me time.. I don't want the same erectile issues to happen with her(Especially on a honeymoon!). And I just wish I was more interested in sex. I am completely attracted to her, she is incredibly sexy. But where is my interest at? Why don't I desire to have sex for hours?
OK so it seems you have some sort of problem with libido which obviously has you worried. It has a mental component because a strong erection requires confidence, but it may also have a physical side. Therefore you have to rule out physical problems. That means you have to go to a doctor and get a physical and tell him you have low libido (which is not normal for a 24 year old). Get blood tests for testosterone, thyroid and prolactin as well as the usual other tests.

If those tests come back normal then you know its mainly a mental problem. I would then suggest some counciling but also trying viagra for a short time just to improve your confidence. Viagra works well and if you are normal physically it will give you strong erections which will make you feel more confident. Then over time you can take less and less by cutting the pills in half or quarters. You may find that with a good feeling about your sexual ability you don't need the viagra at all.

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I'm thinking it's low ejaculate production. Could that be it? If I don't make enough ejaculate I don't have anything to masturbate with and when I do, it takes a long time to recover, days even sometimes. (Althoughw hen I do ejaculate it's normal amounts.. but if I did it the day before, chances are my balls would be sore like I was just scraping the bottom for any ejaculate).
I wasn't sure what you are saying here. Do you almost ALWAYS have normal ejactuation volume or when you masturbate two days in a row is your volume way down? One sign of low testosterone is low ejaculate volume especially if it use to be way more when you were younger.

Just so we are clear, your testicles just produce sperm and the vast majority of ejaculate is produced in and around your prostate gland.


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But where is my interest at? Why don't I desire to have sex for hours?
The average sexual encounter only lasts about 20 minutes for most people and that's average which means 5 minutes sometimes. The sex for hours thing is pretty unusual. You have to be realistic with sex, all the books and movies and stuff blow things way out of proportion.

Hope that helps some.

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Old 07-18-2005, 10:46 PM   #3
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OK so it seems you have some sort of problem with libido which obviously has you worried. It has a mental component because a strong erection requires confidence, but it may also have a physical side. Therefore you have to rule out physical problems. That means you have to go to a doctor and get a physical and tell him you have low libido (which is not normal for a 24 year old). Get blood tests for testosterone, thyroid and prolactin as well as the usual other tests.

If those tests come back normal then you know its mainly a mental problem. I would then suggest some counciling but also trying viagra for a short time just to improve your confidence. Viagra works well and if you are normal physically it will give you strong erections which will make you feel more confident. Then over time you can take less and less by cutting the pills in half or quarters. You may find that with a good feeling about your sexual ability you don't need the viagra at all.
These tests.. how much will they cost and will insurance cover them? And yeah I was planning on using Viagra for our honeymoon when we get married, just so nothing is potentially ruined .. I hate the idea of going to the doctor but if it's what's necessary then I need to find these things out big time.

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I wasn't sure what you are saying here. Do you almost ALWAYS have normal ejactuation volume or when you masturbate two days in a row is your volume way down? One sign of low testosterone is low ejaculate volume especially if it use to be way more when you were younger.

Just so we are clear, your testicles just produce sperm and the vast majority of ejaculate is produced in and around your prostate gland.
Well when I masturbate I always ejaculate normally it seems. I never have an odd low amount of semen. But if I do masturbate too closely together within 48 hours or so then yes my balls will be sore like I just expelled everything they had. I didn't know what created ejaculate, but I'm guessing whatever creates the whole formula is being slowed down. Isn't ejaculate the only thing that causes the soreness after sex?

I once tried that 'injaculate' thing where you hold in your fluid as much as possible. It really makes the orgasm suck, but afterwords I'm not sore because I usually save most of the ejaculate from coming out. (My PC isn't strong enough to hold it ALL back though).

So I figure it's just my fluid production. If I could keep that going on all gears I'd be fine and my libido would raise.

Thanks for your responses too, they are greatly appreciated.

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Old 07-19-2005, 03:23 AM   #4
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Re: Sexual worries

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These tests.. how much will they cost and will insurance cover them?
The tests should be covered if they are ordered by a doctor. They are not very expensive but might be $100.

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So I figure it's just my fluid production. If I could keep that going on all gears I'd be fine and my libido would raise.
Fluid production is mainly controlled by testosterone, but there is obviously an upper limit to that; controlled by available storage space. But 48 hours should be enough to refresh your supply. The fact that it isn't, may indicated low testosterone (also causes low libido) so its worth getting it checked out. I know its embarassing and if you think you will have trouble saying that stuff, then write it down and give your note to the doctor. That way you don't actually have to say it, but it will get communicated fully.

The thing is why suffer with so much anxiety, go to the doc and check it out. Chances are it's nothing, but just incase its better to be safe than sorry.

 
Old 07-19-2005, 12:58 PM   #5
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Re: Sexual worries

That's true. One more question though. These tests, they aren't going to have to 'fondle' me or anything are they? Will they just take blood samples and things like that?

 
Old 07-19-2005, 01:38 PM   #6
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That's true. One more question though. These tests, they aren't going to have to 'fondle' me or anything are they? Will they just take blood samples and things like that?
Well if you have a physical, then the doc will usually examin your penis and testicles for lumps and probably put his finger under your penis and get you to cough. It's a bit embarassing but usually you can keep your underwear on until the time comes to examine your equipment.

The tests are just blood tests from your arm.

 
Old 07-19-2005, 03:43 PM   #7
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Re: Sexual worries

Even when they do examine your penis and testicles, its all very business-like. I've never had a doc do anything that would be at all arousing. In fact, I tend to think they're taught to be not gentle (not rough.... just not gentle) to remind you this is all business. They treat the body like a TV repairman treats your TV. Its all just parts to be worked on.

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Old 07-19-2005, 08:51 PM   #8
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Haha, thanks, but I'll try to get only the bloodwork done. I don't think him touching my stuff is going to give any answers. I have nothing wrong physically (appearance wise) with my equipment. I've touched it enough in my life to know what should be there and shouldn't.

 
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This is called "blue balls" and it happens when some guys receive lots of stimulation but don't ejaculate. The tissue in your testicles swells and pushes on the nerves there. This is very normal and just means maybe you should excuse yourself and masturbate in the bathroom to get relief.
Hope I didn't lose you yet, I just realized this question.. You said if it's blue balls then you should go to the bathroom to get relief?.. But if while this is happening and I do masturbate, then my balls will feel even MORE sore. So it really isn't relief if it makes the soreness worse, right?

 
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Re: Sexual worries

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Hope I didn't lose you yet, I just realized this question.. You said if it's blue balls then you should go to the bathroom to get relief?.. But if while this is happening and I do masturbate, then my balls will feel even MORE sore. So it really isn't relief if it makes the soreness worse, right?
Sometimes masturbating with blue balls makes them hurt more, but after you ejaculate you will get some relief pretty fast.

 
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