Originally Posted by lexcorp
Is there something i can take to reduce my nerves in these situtations? I am a slightly anxious person anyway but i would really like this problem fixed first.
It's very normal to be nervous and it sound like you are a nice guy so maybe you felt uneasy about what you were doing. Lots of guys have trouble getting erections when they are too nervous. The best thing to do is to try to focus on her and what she wants and maybe just make out and get each other off with clothes on first until you are comfortable with her. As you get over your shyness about being naked and being a sexual being, you will warm up to having more fun. After you have ejaculated a few times with clothes on or just slightly undressed and with the same girl, then you might be confortable going further if she wants. Not every guy can get into a one night stand even with a pretty lady. Actually it says something about your character that you didn't feel confortable doing what you were doing.
Remember its all about having fun, and making the other person feel good and being confortable with what you are doing. If you don't get an erection, just say that happens sometimes with my silly penis and keep going. Not that it isn't embarassing, but hey, it happens to all guys sometimes.
Don't turn down other girls. Just because they come on to you doesn't mean you have to go all the way. Make out, do hand stuff, oral or what ever comes to mind. Making out on a couch can be very hot and would probably make you more comfortable before you go further. You need the practice and this kind of practice is fun, for you and her. Don't forget she will be nervous too, wondering if her breasts are nice enough, if she remember clean underwear or whatever...you're not the only one whose sweating in there!