Hey everyone, I would appreciate some feedback to this!
I believe I have anxiety problems or some sort of mental block about normal sex. I have a girlfriend for which we have been going out for 4 years (she is a virgin) and had never expierenced erection problems untill we decided to have sex for the first time.
I have absolutly no probelms with my girlfriend as far as fore-play goes, and really enjoy oral sex. But when we decided to have real sex for the first time, I found it very difficult to get an erection, and it just wouldn't grow.
She was very understanding, considering we have been together for 4 years but it's difficult for me emotionally and feel frustrated at thinking back on the situation. It's as if part of me wants to but another part dosn't.
This is not the only time it's happened either. When I was 17, (now 21), I was in a very similar situation the first time I was going to have sex, but couldn't get an erection no matter what I thought of. It was difficult to get over.
I consider myself quite a stressfull person. I hate speaking in public and suffer from a stammer and have difficulties explaining my feelings. I am sure that this has something to do with my problem. I only suffer from not getting an erection when we plan to try to have sex.
I also think I masturabate to much, sometimes four times a day. It's a habbit Ive never been able to get over'since child-hood.
I have taken Viagra once (Levitra), and for the first time I had no problems with an erection whatsover with the idea of having sex. However, in the moment we were going to try do it for the first time, she said it hurt too much (she is a virgin) and we decided to leave it!!!! But I am sure that Viagra is just a short term solution for me, and want to try and clear my mind of this mental block I have.
Please help if you can...