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Old 08-05-2005, 09:08 AM   #1
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first oral sex = disappointment

Last night, I had oral sex with a stranger. I was very nervous because it was my first time and it happened so fast, we met, talked for a bit, and then we went straight to the bed. Now my problem is that she was giving me oral for 2 hours and I couldn't ejaculate. At some point I feel like I was about to hit orgasm but it gradually dies down, I don't know why.

Can anyone tell me what can make me ejaculate easier? Could nervous and anxiety be stopping me from it? The condom? I know I was really nervous that's one thing. At the beginning it felt really good but about 20 min. after it sorta got boring.

I'm 20 years old and I've started masterbating once a day since I was like 11. Could my masterbation have gotten me hooked that not even oral sex from a women can satisfy me?

I'm really worried and fusterated after the disappointment I got last night.

PS. I remember at the age of about 18, my girlfriend was masterbating for me and I couldn't reach orgasm as well. I was also lying on my back while she was doing it. I remember reading somewhere that an exercise could help men ejaculate easier.

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Old 08-05-2005, 06:41 PM   #2
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Re: first oral sex = disappointment

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Originally Posted by aznlan**ai
I'm 20 years old and I've started masterbating once a day since I was like 11. Could my masterbation have gotten me hooked that not even oral sex from a women can satisfy me?
Truthfully, it can't hurt to lay off the masturbation. If nothing else, you'll have a higher level of desire and that generally translates into a quicker orgasm. Yes, it is possible to be hooked or "spoiled" by masturbation such that your hand is the only thing that can satisfy you. But I can tell you from experience that you can get back to normal over time by 'going without' if this is really your problem.

If I read your post right, you had a condom on while she performed oral on you. The sensation is just not going to be as good as if you were without the condom. (I'm not advocating that you don't use a condom - there's enough folks with diseases out there that you're wise to be careful, especially when dealing with a stranger! ) Then too, when you're masturbating, you change your pressure, speed, etc in response to what you're feeling. There's no way for her to instinctively know what you're feeling and react to increase your pleasure like you'd do yourself.

There's also a bunch of other possibilities... nervousness is one, and complete inexperience with what each other likes is another. Its also possible that she's just not that good at what she's doing - although I've got to say that if she went for 2 hours, she at least was dedicated!

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Old 08-06-2005, 08:00 AM   #3
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Re: first oral sex = disappointment

2 hours? That poor girl must have been exhausted. Anyway, getting oral doesn't automatically mean you will orgasm. Like you said, it could've been a mental thing, especially since after a while you felt pressured and anxious about reaching orgasm. Some people are very particular about how they need to receive oral in order to ejaculate. It feels different from regular sex, but I have personally found that it works best (for my bf) to try and make it feel as much like regular sex as possible, using my hand and mouth. She just didn't know how (and neither did you) to do it in order to make you orgasm. Everyone is different. I know it was a disappointment to you, but don't worry. It takes some experimenting to learn what you like and dislike.

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Old 08-22-2005, 04:53 PM   #4
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Re: first oral sex = disappointment

For many men, condoms greatly reduce the sensitivity. This helps them last longer, but it can also reduce the sensations so much that ejaculation can become impossible for them. However, especially with a stranger, do not be tempted to forego the condoms, as STDs can be passed via oral sex.

It is also possible that you were very nervous and this is what caused your problem. While having oral sex with a stranger can be very exciting, it can also be nerve wracking for some.

I would not worry too much about it.

 
Old 08-25-2005, 11:15 PM   #5
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Re: first oral sex = disappointment

Personally I'd rather have that problem than ejaculating too early.

 
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