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Old 08-10-2005, 09:18 AM   #1
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OCD or GAY????

Well I am a 23 yr old male here I think I am gay and have OCD. I wash my hands alot.
Well when I am fooling arond with another male (not having sex), there is usually a presence of pre seminal fluid and I freak out when I see it on another male. Well last night I had a guy over and we made out in the nude (we didnt have sex or oral sex), well I noticed he had pre seminal fluid coming from his penis and it got on my bed. I am now freaked out .

Everytime I am with a male I freak out with the semen.This was hte first time a guy had been to my house in the past I would go to their houses, now I feel likw my whol bed and house are dirty
This morning I immediately went to the washer to clean my bed sheets and bed spread. Well after we fooled around he put his clothes on, but I am worried befor ehe washed his hands, that he may have touched things in my room which makes me feel like there are germs from his seminal fluid on it.

Please help me, why do I feel like this? Is it bc I am not 100% ok with my sexuality

I feel my entire APT is just nasty wiht his seminal fluid..

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Old 08-10-2005, 09:50 AM   #2
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Re: OCD or GAY????

What do you think your options are? Don't have guys over or seek some type of therapy of overcoming your fear of these fluids. BTW, STDs are present in seminal and pre-seminal fluid. Fortunately, most will die to exposure to air after a very short while and skin (keratinized epithelial skin) is a good barrier. Viruses such as HIV die withing seconds to air exposure. But viruses like hepatitis can last up to six weeks. Sex and particularly sex with strangers is alway a somewhat risky proposition, not only from STDs but from violence as well. But sex and sex with strangers goes on all the time without consequences. So on one hand you seem to be greatly over-reacting. On the other hand, there is a need for caution.

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Re: OCD or GAY????

I don't understand why you named your thread that. From your post, you seem obviously gay (or severely leaning that way) AND you have OCD or some kind of disorder that makes you freak out over another man's pre-ejaculatory fluid.

Anyway, your post doesn't seem to question your sexuality, since you are obviously having lots of sex with different men (making the distinction of 'no intercourse or oral' is irrelevent, it's still sex), and you seem well aware that you have an unreasonable fear or disgust towards other men's pre-***, I don't know what you are asking by your thread title.

It just looks to me like you may have some kind of OCD, depending on how bad it is. How do you feel about their actual semen? How do you feel about your own semen or pre-ejaculatory fluid?

Old 08-10-2005, 10:13 AM   #4
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Re: OCD or GAY????

I never had sex..We bascialy kissed and touched in the nude on my bed ..that;s all!

Well I had a fear of my semn for a long time..but other people's semen freaks me out

I washed my sheets and I still feel as if they are nasty..I feel nasty...Well the guy was someone I talked to and had dinner with and he came over..I didnt have intentions to do anything honestly ..but he turned the talk sexual and siad he was curious and dI let me hormones get the best of me

Well maybe I should kill myseldf bc suicide has been on my mind ALOT
I cant live in fear of these fluids and germs

WHAT CAN I DO!!! Do I need to feel weird about these fluids?

Old 08-10-2005, 11:08 AM   #5
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Re: OCD or GAY????

Sounds like therapy would be beneficial.

Old 08-10-2005, 11:41 AM   #6
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Re: OCD or GAY????

OCD is a medical condition that needs to be treated by a professional. I read a journal research article years ago where they took these brain scans of OCD patients and control subjects. They could see these messages go across on both sets of subjects. The control subjects a message was sent from another spot on the brain that basically tells the first message it was received. The OCD patients didn't have this. The first message was being sent repeatedly. Once treated with an SSRI style antidepressant the brains of the OCD subjects started working like the controls.

My husband has some OCD issues and years ago he used to have to run and take a shower after sex. Since he has been on meds he stopped doing that. My oldest son has a more severe case of OCD and he couldn't stop washing his hands, was afraid of germs and more. It was also treated successfully with medication.

Old 08-10-2005, 12:37 PM   #7
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Re: OCD or GAY????

I wash my hands constantly as wel...Since this hapend I have not eaten and have no desire to and suicide has been on my mind..So what name brand meds would be good for me?

Am I worrying about the seminal fluids too much ?
I know you guys porbably think Im a **** for what hapend and I SWEAR to you I had no intentions of anything sexual..the guy on the other hand probaly did
I was stupid for inviting him over

Old 08-10-2005, 03:12 PM   #8
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Yes you would do well to just sit down and talk to a really nice therapist. It just seems like there are some issues going on that you dont know how to pinpoint or perhaps put into words. Your fear of seminal fluid makes perfect sense to a certain degree, just like fear of vaginal fluid makes sense. But, you can freak yourself out more than you need to be doing and exhaust yourself with this worry that is not helping you at all. Not everyone has a disease obviosely.Realize that, not everyone has a disease. Ok? Also know that its ok that you feel this way but to a certain point.
Now speaking of medications, there are really good medications out there that people have found relief after getting the prescription and being on for a few weeks such as antidepressants or ssri's. Paxil, Zoloft, Prozac, Lexapro...and Celexa. One of my best guy friends take Celexa and he says it works really well. Talk to your regular doctor, or make an appointment to discuss this with a doctor who can help you and get you going in the right direction. It would be good, and also hook up with a good counselor or therapist would do some good too. OCD is no fun, and remember you are not alone, ok? First things first, make an apointment to see your doc.

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Re: OCD or GAY????

There is a good book, called Brain Lock. It can tell you a lot of what is going on, between different sections, causing the brain to basically overheat. It also tells you how to break the pattern, and cool the brain down. It is a good starting point. A good therapist can help a lot.

Old 08-11-2005, 08:18 AM   #10
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I think you should seek some therapy. At the same time when you come in contact with pre seminal fluid try to remain relaxed about it and just enjoy the moments.

Old 08-11-2005, 09:21 AM   #11
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Re: OCD or GAY????

I read that book and it didnt help...I dont know what to do
WHat you think about a psychiratrist? I see they are medical doc's and also do counseling
So they can get me meds or put me in a mental hospital

You dont know how I feel inside.I cant touch anything in my house

Old 08-11-2005, 11:25 AM   #12
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Re: OCD or GAY????

Start out by talking to your doctor. He or she can then refer you to the right professional. Tell the doctor you're interested in therapy not just medication. But my guess is you'll take some meds too. A pscyhiatrist is an MD and can prescribe them. Therapists would have to work with an MD or psychiatrist to get you any medications you might need.
Do this. Make an appointment with your doctor today.

Old 08-11-2005, 03:55 PM   #13
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Hi, I'm so sorry that your feeling this way. Please do go and see a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist will be able to assist you in resolving emotional issues as well as diagnose any abnormal brain chemistry you may have. (OCD, depression ect). I would go and see a psychiatrist as soon as possible. It must be awful to be living in your home and feeling that way. A normal physician won't be able to help you as much as a specialist like a psychiatrist. And yes if need be he/she will be able to provide you with prescription medication. Good luck.

Old 08-12-2005, 09:14 AM   #14
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Re: OCD or GAY????

Therpy should definently help you get past some of your "hang-ups"
Please look in to getting help, its the best thing to do.
Please keek in touch,

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