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Old 08-15-2005, 02:12 PM   #1
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Can you change a low sex drive?

I'm curious how common/normal it is for a man to only want to have sex a few times a week. On the days sex occurs, he climax's once and only desires to climax once. (This can be climax from oral or intercourse). Is this average or would you define this as a low sex drive? Could this mean that he has a hormone imbalance?

I'm just curious, if this is normal and if so is there any way to increase one's sex drive? Our sex drives do not match, and even after many many months of less sex I still desire sex more often than I receive it. I love this man very much and it's very possible that I will be with him for the rest of my life. But a healthy and gratifying sex life is very important to me. I don't want to hurt his feelings or make him feel as if he doesn't satisfy me.

I'd appreciate anyone's thoughts and comments about this.
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Old 08-15-2005, 02:32 PM   #2
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Re: Can you change a low sex drive?

It would be rare for two people to have the exact same sex drive all the time. Your bf sounds normal. Some people want it more, some less. It's as individual as personalities. Everyone's libido is different, and variable as well. Next month or next year he might want it every day. Next year, you may lose all desire. It's just not predictable.

I'm curious. You said that on the days sex occurs, he climax's once and only desires to climax once. Most people do exactly that. Maybe you are capable of multiple orgasms? If that's the case, that's pretty rare.

I guess you have to decide if the difference in the amount of sex would be too much for you to live with.

There's supposed to be drugs that increase sex drive but I don't know anything about them. Maybe someone else could tell you more. Your guy is normal though.

 
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Old 08-15-2005, 03:18 PM   #3
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Re: Can you change a low sex drive?

Thanks Cookie

If this is totally normal I don't think I would want him to take any sort of drugs.

I am able to have multiple orgasms and the men I have partnered with have always been able to climax more than once. In fact they all have had "really high" sex drives compared to my current BF. So I thought maybe he was abnormal...but it seems that maybe it was more abnormal that the men I have been with were so much more active.

 
Old 08-15-2005, 04:16 PM   #4
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...but it seems that maybe it was more abnormal that the men I have been with were so much more active.
LOL. I think you just knew how to pick 'em!

 
Old 08-16-2005, 02:45 PM   #5
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Re: Can you change a low sex drive?

yeah I guess! It just suprises me how much sexual drive can vary from person to person. But I guess I do hear about women who only desire it a few times a month. That completely SHOCKS me!? A few times a month? I love it and would happily do it daily!!!!

 
Old 08-21-2005, 10:03 PM   #6
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Re: Can you change a low sex drive?

i think thats not normal. i think you should have him take vitamins like omega 3 fish oil, and a multi vitamin, vitamin e and a multi mineral (this is a diiferent one than multi vitamin) and his sex drive should increase. I take those everyday and im a 32 yr old male and im ready at the drop of a dime and after i orgasm i can do it again at least minimum 2-3 xs a day. good luck hun.

 
Old 08-22-2005, 12:21 AM   #7
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Re: Can you change a low sex drive?

My husband is the same way. He only wants sex once or twice a week (or less), and he only wants to orgasm once during each session.

I was convinced that was abnormal for his age (28), so I made him go to the doctor. I was surprised when the doc told me that was completely normal. That sex drives vary dramatically from person to person, and that my husband was well within the standard range.

I feel a lot better since we talked to the doctor. Before, when he didn't want to have sex, it felt like a rejection. I have a much higher sex drive than him, and it is frustrating to have to take care of myself. I know that he is under a lot of pressure and feels like he isn't satisfying me. I don't mean to make him feel bad, but it is hard.

I don't really have any advice, just wanted to let you know that I understand how hard it can be. There is more to a relationship than sex, but sex is important too! You just have to decide if the good in your relationship outweighs the bad.

Good luck.

 
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