Badbadgirl, I notice you did not give your age--are you younger than hubby? Are you menopausal? I would look forward to that other thread...why the increased activity all of a sudden...if he stayed erect and couldn't ejaculate i would say there might be cause for concern as i've read that is a sometimes side effect of Viagra...but if he is losing his erection, i would guess you're just keeping the guy from accumulating any desire: don't forget the tease and anticipation is a big part of sex (i'm not talking just about foreplay) and the tease can go on continually all day, every day, kind of like an undercurrent...not a blatant in your face kind of thing, but a light dancing type of rhythmic tease that becomes a part of you....everywhere you go. Work the walk and you'll turn heads...and he'll notice and it will be a turn on, I guarrantee it. I'm not talking necessarily slutty but...anyway it can be done in t shirt and jeans, etc. Cindy Crawford does it, Sandra Bullock in Miss Congeniality when she walked out transformed the first time walked it, just exude sex. I repressed my libido for a while for hubby's sake, but it jumped up and bit me in the butt so I just go with it now...hubby seems to like it and others you come in contact with like it...even other women seem friendlier...(no, I'm not a lizzie) My conclusion: the world just likes sexy sensual women..and all the while you'll be tautening the desire and tension in your man, which is what it's all about...not how often you have it, but creating desire.