Hubby and I have recently increased the frequency we have sex from about 2X per month to every other day (for a variety of reasons - but not the topic of this post!!!). We would be having sex every day if it were up to me, but he is complaining that his testicles are sore from "slapping around" during intercourse and says he needs a day off to recover.
From beginning to end we usually make love for about 60 minutes (including foreplay, oral sex, etc) but the actual intercourse time is usually only about 15 minutes. We do not have rough sex or anything and he always finishes in what I would call a "normal" manner. Is it normal for a man to get sore balls from intercourse every other day? Is it a sign of a problem?
Is there any type of device or sex toy that would prevent his testicles from moving or getting sore? I have seen some "toys" that have a double ring where one ring goes on the penis and the other wraps around the testicles - is that what this is for? Has anyone here used this?
BTW - Hubby is 53 yrs old.
Last edited by badbadgirl; 09-09-2005 at 03:44 AM.
i think it is just a normal usage thing. my balls get sore somewhat after
intercourse, and it's gotten more pronounced as i've gotten older (i'm 51).
you can try the device or devices you've mentioned if he's game,
but i think it's not the testicles slapping that causes the soreness,
but the arousal and ejaculation.
good luck, it sounds like you're having some fun anyway!
I also think it's a normal thing when having intercourse as often as you and your husband are,I think it's great, I envy both of you and would certainly endure some sore testicles if I could ejaculate that often.
its pretty normal..... sack starts to hang low breasts start to hang lower... all very normal and comon - if the sack hangs lower and you are very active yes you will feel a certain abuse.... try a **** ring helps mostly staing hard and will not let the testicals fly wild...
Here is an interesting change in circumstances... Now suddenly he is lasting MUCH longer - like 45-60 minutes or longer and sometimes he can't finish. The last two times (this week) he lasted that long during intercourse and did not ejaculate either time - just got tired/sore or started to lose his erection (probably because he was tired/sore) and decided to stop. I'm not complaining because he is taking care of me and how could I complain about him lasting that long? But I am worried that he is not finishing. I ask him if he wants me to help him finish (hand or oral) and he says no. I ask him if he will finish himself later and he says no. Is it possible for a man to experience intercourse for 60 minutes (in addition to all the foreplay) on two different days and still not feel an overwhelming need to ejaculate? He says don't worry, next time. Between his soreness, and his now difficulty achieving ejaculation I wonder if something might be wrong.
Maybe I should just stop worrying, but I don't want him experiencing pain or to be causing him distress.
Badbadgirl, I notice you did not give your age--are you younger than hubby? Are you menopausal? I would look forward to that other thread...why the increased activity all of a sudden...if he stayed erect and couldn't ejaculate i would say there might be cause for concern as i've read that is a sometimes side effect of Viagra...but if he is losing his erection, i would guess you're just keeping the guy from accumulating any desire: don't forget the tease and anticipation is a big part of sex (i'm not talking just about foreplay) and the tease can go on continually all day, every day, kind of like an undercurrent...not a blatant in your face kind of thing, but a light dancing type of rhythmic tease that becomes a part of you....everywhere you go. Work the walk and you'll turn heads...and he'll notice and it will be a turn on, I guarrantee it. I'm not talking necessarily slutty but...anyway it can be done in t shirt and jeans, etc. Cindy Crawford does it, Sandra Bullock in Miss Congeniality when she walked out transformed the first time walked it, just exude sex. I repressed my libido for a while for hubby's sake, but it jumped up and bit me in the butt so I just go with it now...hubby seems to like it and others you come in contact with like it...even other women seem friendlier...(no, I'm not a lizzie) My conclusion: the world just likes sexy sensual women..and all the while you'll be tautening the desire and tension in your man, which is what it's all about...not how often you have it, but creating desire.