Hi,
Just a quick question. My bf and i have been together for 3 years and from about a year ago, my bf hasnt been too interested in sex. Now he will be quite happy with once a week and when i asked him why he said 'im just not a sex person'. Hes 20 and i dont know if this is normal at all. Its not that he doesnt find me attractive anymore coz ive asked him and he does want to be with me all the time and even mentioned us getting engaged. So...what could be the problem? It used to be fine and when we do have sex its really good and he says so too!
Do some men just not like sex?????
P.s its not that he thinks i dont want to either coz he knows i do!!!
I under 20 and although i like sex, its not like a big thing to me. My orgasms are nothing special so after i while i have just become rather bored, could be his problems? To be honest i dont know why some guys are so obsessed with sex, women seem to have a hell of alot more fun.
my boyfriend and i live really far away from each other and so youd think that when we saw each other after weeks apart, we'd have sex alot and to be honest if it was up to me we would but its not like that at all. He just doesn't seem that into it, and especially not into foreplay at all, just actual intercourse. It drives me crazy. I've asked him and once when he was drunk he admitted that he doesnt always like to have sex, not just with me, i mean in general, but the next morning when i tried to bring it up again, he was just like "what are you talking about, i love to have sex" and so i dropped it. It just makes me so insecure and so unhappy, i know sex isnt everything, and i dont put any pressure on him at all, but all the other guys i've been with have been the total opposite..so it just plays on my mind a lot. ach i dunno....
I am going through the same thing right now. My b/f and I are both in our 20's. we have been together for 4 years. We have sex like once a month! I know how you feel. This makes you VERY insecure. I just don't understand it.
.... It is either like someone else said depression, cheating,he's masterbating too much or just not interested in sex with you(doesnt mean he is cheating)
That is what I think & feel with the situation I am in. My boyfriend used the Sex isnt that important to me line too and the depression excuse too! Then I found out that he was still looking at porn so obviously he does like sex! So I came to the conclusion that after a few years of the same person and after trying out EVERYTHING ...... it must just get old.
I know how you feel though it does suck! I'm not really sure how much of this I can take.
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Maybe they have a very low sex drive or they are gay and in denial. There is tons of men who are gay and go with women as a cover and never come out some even get married and have kids to hide it. I could be wrong on the gay thing but I wouldn't rule that out.
I can only think of a few things why a guy wouldn't want to have sex: gay, seriously depressed, scared of pregnancy, scared of STDs, not physically attracted, or cheating.
I think sex is great morning and night, so I don't know why any guy wouldn't...
I think that is a great comment. Women are a lot more obsessed with sex than a man is. It just must be the society. Years ago it was not like this. It is the tremendous awareness of sex nowadays in everything that we do. No matter where you look it hits you in the face.
Ive had moments where I was not interested in sex at all for maybe a week. I am not gay. It just happened that I was under a lot of stress about my career.
Happens to be that my career is waaay more important to me than sex. So his problem might be that he has things that are more important to him and that maybe he is stressing about it.
Maybe he is low on testosterone..that can kill the sex drive.
I dated someone like that when I was in my teens and early 20's. I had to practically BEG for sex LOL!! I only saw him on the weekends too.
Come to find out he was watching porn and masturbating too much during the week. Well, that is my GUESS, he never would admit it, but he did have porno in his room all the time.
Does your b/f have porn? Check around his room when he isn't there and see if that is it maybe??
i find it weird too im dateing someone new and he will avoid intercourse im aloud to masturbate him or give him a blowjob but when it comes to sex he makes excuses
im not sure but maybe its because they ejaculate to quick that if he did try to have sex with me it wound,nt be worth it coz he,ll ejaculate even quicker so maybe there building them selfs up for the big one not sure but heres hopeing ......
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the only thing about sex is - it is soooo predicatble - it don't matter what you do the end result is always the same( although getting there is kinda good) so at times you feel why bother
