Re: Frustrating Problem
It's the tension, stress, and "perform now" anxiety that is deffinately doing it.
I know because I've been there, my wife and I are trying to concieve, and due to our work schedules, we sometimes only have a few hours together at night. So when we feel it's the best time to conceive, I'm asked to perform on the spot, and as my intentions are all good, and I really want to, I've experienced the same things.
Semi-erection, or one that dies off in the middle of sex. Or it takes a long time to ejaculate, various things. The worst is that my wife gets very upset when this happens, or very angry. She's just extremely frustrated with the entire situation... However lately, we've both been trying to take the edge off, relax more, and it is deffinately working.
You need to find things that will help you relax a lot more.
Why not come up with a game plan. Ok.. you and your wife are in bed. You have two kids under the age of 5. So maybe a 4 and a 2 year old or something.
Now imagine one of them walks in on you having sex? What do you do? How do you react? What do you say?
Maybe you can tell your son "Mommy and Daddy are having some private time. Could you please go downstairs for a little while, we'll be down soon."
Remember to not get mad at your kids, (ie. "get the hell out of here!!!" or something. They don't know any better)
Also remember, your kids don't know what "sex" is, they havn't the faintest clue. So to them, you and your wife may be "wrestling" or "playing" or "being silly".... So it won't harm them to see you, mind you, I'd stay under the covers while having those quickies.
Remember, you're kids wouldn't be the first to walk in on their parents.
Now. My point is that if you have a game plan for the "worst case scenario" it may help you relax and perform better. By all means bar the door with a piece of furniture or something if necessary =)