you're right, it is indeed all in the mind. Here's what you do...
Sit down with your girlfriend, tell her that you really do love her (I hope you do) and say that "I know sex is a little awkward, and I can't get my soldier to stand at attention, but if we work together, and take it slow. Things will improve."
Make it light, joke about it yourself.. It will lighten the mood. You're 17 and just starting your sexual experiences... you'll look back and laugh at this..
When I first lost my virginity, I remember having sex with my girlfriend, and I would litterally get the shakes, my leg and body would start to have uncontrollable tremors like I was too excited. It was embarrising for me, because I just couldn't make it stop. My girlfriend would laugh about it, and eventually it just stopped.. It is deffinately all in the mind.
I know you're underage, but a little alcohol can help lighten the mood, (just a little). Like a glass of wine each. Don't go and get smashed, thats not what I'm saying.
Also be aware, that for some people alcohol produces erectile problems. Lastly, please please please make sure your girlfriend is completely ok with that, if thats what you choose to do. (and make sure you have your protection all ready before hand. It's easy to get tipsy and say "ah heck with the condom. LETS DO IT!)
Also, for the length of sex. your friends are lying.
Lasting Hours? Their girlfriends must be extremely sore.
The average man ejaculates between 2 and 5 minutes after intercourse (from what I recall) so if they say they have had "Sex" for hours. I would assume that they're adding in "Foreplay" and any other sex act like mutual masturbation, touching, petting, licking, kissing, oral sex etc. as part of that whole. (and probably cuddling at the end). Plus guys generally exaggerate things, sometimes without realising it.
How many times have I seen on the net "16m 9" penis"
There are a lot of 16 year old males with unnaturally long penises lol. I'm 30, 6'3" tall, and my penis is only around 7.5" in length when erect. Standard is between 6 and 7.5 (I believe).
If you have any questions, feel free to ask... Remember, take things slow, don't have any expectations.. and just be in the moment. Maybe look into yoga, or meditation to clear your head before hand...
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