Originally Posted by rapidfire7
Ive come to the conclusion that being nice gets you nothing and you have to be tough in the mind and act very confident to get the girl you want.
You can be nice and confident at the same time. One does not exclude the other. The average woman is attracted to the combination of both. You would probably be attracted to a girl like that too. Nice, AND confident. A confident man is comfortable with himself. He is not cocky or mean spirited, and he's kind and gentle without feeling weak. Just don't fall into the trap of thinking you have to be a "bad boy" to get attention. They're a dime a dozen. You're still young, and like you said, you lack confidence, or appear to, in certain areas. Confidence is something we develope over time with trial and error, so don't be so hard on yourself.