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Old 03-12-2006, 05:35 AM   #1
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Question for guys about not staying hard, but ejaculating

Ok, there is this guy that I have messed around with a few times. The first time I thought this problem was just an isolated incident, but now I'm thinking this is how he is. Although he is very into our make out sessions, he doesnt get/stay that hard. No matter what I/he does, he isn't hard enough to penetrate. BUT, he always ends up ejaculating. Just when I think things are going nowhere because he is so limp, he ejaculates! What is up with that?? Is it normal to not be hard and still ejaculate like this?? Does it mean this is as hard as he's getting?!?! Any opinions or words of advice??

 
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Old 03-12-2006, 06:51 AM   #2
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Re: Question for guys about not staying hard, but ejaculating

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Ok, there is this guy that I have messed around with a few times. The first time I thought this problem was just an isolated incident, but now I'm thinking this is how he is. Although he is very into our make out sessions, he doesnt get/stay that hard. No matter what I/he does, he isn't hard enough to penetrate. BUT, he always ends up ejaculating. Just when I think things are going nowhere because he is so limp, he ejaculates! What is up with that?? Is it normal to not be hard and still ejaculate like this?? Does it mean this is as hard as he's getting?!?! Any opinions or words of advice??
I had this problem..due to masterbating...
Basically I trained myself out of it, though it still sometimes randomly becomes softer and then hard at the very end.
Basicaly he just has to leran to only allow himself to ejaculate while fully hard, the body can be trained.
Though I still have ongoing problems such as only getting hard when manually stimulated by myself or a partner. The "getting hard" though thought isnt really an option at the moment.
But I am working on it

 
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Old 03-12-2006, 10:55 AM   #3
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Re: Question for guys about not staying hard, but ejaculating

Depends on how old he is. Over 35, its a sign of sexual dysfunction and needs to be checked out. Under 35 and I would guess over masturbation and/or he's too nervous for a full erection. Between 25 and 35 it could be some of both.

Ask him if that happens when he masturbates, or just with you.

 
Old 03-12-2006, 02:40 PM   #4
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Re: Question for guys about not staying hard, but ejaculating

He is 26 years old so you wouldnt think it should be a problem..

 
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He is 26 years old so you wouldnt think it should be a problem..
It certainly doesn't seem normal for this to be happening to a guy 26.

 
Old 03-13-2006, 07:02 AM   #6
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I agree, this is not normal for a 26 year old to not get an erection firm enough for penetration, a visit to an urologist should give both of you an answer.
A full erection isn't necessary for ejaculation.

 
Old 03-13-2006, 04:50 PM   #7
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My husband is 38 and i have been wondering the same thing. I didnt think men could ejaculate without an erection???? Well he is erect..........but not fully. He has been to the urologist and they told him he had an enlarged prostate...............didnt want to put him on med's, he said he was too young for that! We are looking for a different doc!! I am sooooo extremely frusterated with our sex life! This has been going on for a loooong time! Hope we find some answer's soon.

 
Old 03-14-2006, 05:07 AM   #8
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Re: Question for guys about not staying hard, but ejaculating

daisy duke - sorry to hear you are experiencing the same thing with your husband! it really does suck, doesnt it (no pun intended).

Thanks for all the answers, guys!

 
Old 03-15-2006, 09:58 AM   #9
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Re: Question for guys about not staying hard, but ejaculating

My suggestions: have him abstain from masturbating for a while. Do plenty of warm-up before attempting penetration. Personally, I LOVE to receive oral, but every guy is different. Point is, don't rush into intercourse, relax, give nature a chance.

 
Old 03-15-2006, 05:28 PM   #10
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He should see a urologist. He may have a worrisome health issue that needs to be addressed. Please see that he at least sees a family physician about this ASAP.

As for ejaculating without an erection, it is certainly possible. Not as fun, but quite possible.

 
Old 03-18-2006, 06:24 AM   #11
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thanks for the responses, everyone...

 
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