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Meggan87 · 06-06-2006, 11:28 AM

Hey guys I have a question about my boyfriend. We were in the middle of sex last night and we switched psitions, I got on top. After about 5 minutes of me being on top I stopped to turn the fan off wich took no more then 10 seconds and i went to get back on my boyfriend and he no longer had an erection?! He said "suck it for a little" and I looked up at him, the whole time feeling so....unsure of myself. I gave him a look and all he said was "dont even start to huff and puff" What the hell is going on?!?! I'll give you guys some more facts about us maybe it will help. First of all this is NOT the first time this has happened. I am 18 years old my boyfriend is 27. We have been dating for a year, but have been "friends with benifits" for about 3. I am not a ugly person at all, I'm actually very attractive (not to sound concieted) but I get hit on all the time and there are alot of men who want me. So i just cant figure out what the problem is. Could it be that he is cheating on me? Ive asked him if he is still attracted to me and he says yes he is.I've also ask if he is or has cheated and he says no but what guy would actually admit to it.So i just dont know whats going on.Is this common or normal? What could be causing this?
I know this may seem stupid but honestly this has ruined sex for me. I dont even want to have sex with him anymore because I am so worried about him not being turned on by me or thinking of other women just to get aroused. So all the help anyone can give will be very much appreciated!!!!
Also this question may be stupid but what do guys usually think about during sex....Honestly.
Thank you so much for whatever help your willing to give me.
Megan

humanrain120 · 06-06-2006, 12:25 PM

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StenoLady1 · 06-06-2006, 12:48 PM

I think this is pretty common with guys. I definitely don't think it's you.

I know sometimes doing oral on my hubby, I'll get a bit cotton-mouthed and have to stop, roll over on the bed, step over the dogs and find my water bottle, drink, step back over dogs, roll back on the bed and we're back to square one, i.e., not the erection he had when I rolled over. All of this takes about 10 seconds. Personally, I like the challenge

Something I've found with at least my guy, sometimes folks like a little variety during sex. It wasn't this way when I first met my hubby, but now after 15 years, in a two-hour span, we'll have massages, oral, penetration, more oral, more penetration, maybe some fuzzy handcuffs or bouncing on an exercise ball. Definitely keeps things interesting!

Best of Luck

Halls · 06-06-2006, 04:11 PM

3 years? HUM......your 18 and he is 27. So, he started sleeping with you when he was 24 and you were 15??

I think you have something more to worry about than your boyfriends erections.

Angel77 · 06-07-2006, 01:38 PM

I agree with Halls. I think he's using his age and experience to take advantage of you. It is wrong. You may think you're in love with this guy, but it sounds to me as if he's using you. That is quite an age difference...you see it later in life and it's no big deal, but that's because by the time you're in your mid to late 20's, you'll have learned quite a bit more about life than you do in your teenage years. And saying you were just friends with benefits at such a young age, IMO was his way of avoiding responsibility.

Do your parents or friends know about this situation? What's their take on this? I have a gut feeling, something is seriously wrong with this whole situation.

How does he treat you out of the bedroom? Is he a gentleman? Do you two live together? What's the relationship like other than in the bedroom?

Please tell me you're using protection with this guy...he doesn't sound like daddy material.

I don't mean to sound mean, but I'm just being honest.

Good luck, you're going to need it.