What do I do, If I cannot stop thinking im gay. I know for a fact that I am not gay, I don't want to be gay, though I continue to think about being gay and I cannot stop questioning myself on this subject.
I find the thought of other men disgusting, especially in a sexual manner, though I continue to ponder the subject. IM not sure why I keep thinking of this.
I'm 21 and a virgin, have always liked women, until a few months ago, when these thoughts came into my head. That time and this were the only times that I have thought of it, though it comes up and I cant stop questioning myself.
I ask for some advice, on what to do from other guys, maybe some others have gone through this. Any help would be appreciated.
You need to ask yourself some questions. How do your parents feel about Gays? If you were raised in a home with parents who are anti gay or have a strong opinion against them, you may have the same feelings about Gay people. Do you see where I'm going with this? Maybe you are Gay but, you can't stand the thought of it. There's nothing wrong with being Gay. You need to do what's best for you and what makes you happy.
You may know for sure, after your first encounter with a female.
my mother is very open, nobody is against gays, or anything of that nature. My grandmother is but i rarely talk to her. though if I were gay she wouldn't treat me different.
I know I should do whats best for me, though This is not making me happy,its making me miserable.
I still look at women the same way I always do, its not that I look at me at all, its just that I continue to ponder the question.
maybe you have OCD.....people with OCD obcess about things and have intrusive thoughts about things, that they would never act on.
check out the obcessions and compulsions board.
I agree with Dan, it will probably fade once the first encounter with a woman happens. Sometimes lack of "intimacy" can make the mind do crazy things. I know at one point in my life, I thought about women. Yet, I am totally straight. I had to have an encounter with a woman to realize that I was completely straight.
From my experience with OCD, it sounds like it is OCD in you.
When the thought occurs, try focusing on something else which requires your complete attention, for 15 minutes. That gives the brain a chance to cool down, and return to normal. Good luck.
Just a question, and I don't mean to sound rude or anything. But when you ejaculate, are you thinking about guys or girls?
always has been girls, never looked at gay porn or anything like that.
though I do have trouble getting an erection to just pictures of women like I used to a while ago. or the start of a porn, There has to be some sexual act, usually with guy in there.
If you have homosexual OCD, then you can discuss your OCD on the OCD board without discussion the homosexual aspect of your problem. For the board policy on H-OCD, please read the sticky at the top of the General Sexual Health board.
